Red, the reason I wake up each morning is because JUST MAYBE today someone might invent fast food that tastes good and doesn't make me fat... JUST MAYBE!
This thread surprised me. The answers are remarkably deep and serious. I dare bet that to all those discussing their deepest emotions here it must feel quite cathartic.
For me, as many, I haven't always enjoyed life. I've always been quite on my own, holding only two close friends. This may not seem like much, but they're both very deep friendships, that I'll carry with me for the rest of my life.
I have some trouble enjoying the Diablo 3 launch this year... because May 16th 2011, one of those friends was shot and killed by her jealous and psychotic ex boyfriend.
Wouldn't say I ever seriously considered killing myself. But the world did become a much darker place.
Sorry to hear about your friend. I can understand how this would be a difficult time because of that.
This thread actually surprised me too. I wasn't sure how people would react when I was being completely honest about how I've felt about things. It's good to know there's other people around who are similar.
I've also only ever really had one or two close friends at a time. Over the last few years though, those relationships have drifted apart. I've completely lost touch with one of my friends, and the other we're just not as close anymore for some reason. I think part of it was on me though. I feel I've messed things up before and I've had to distance myself a bit from people. I guess it's a defense mechanism of sorts. I've been more comfortable and able to focus on my own life though because of it, so I don't think it's a bad thing. It's about time I've focused on myself anyway.
I have also found that while my good friends are gone (I do have many friends, but nobody who is not a family member that is close to me), the introspection that void has given me has allowed me to at least reign in some of my behavior issues and think for myself about the issues in life. I still miss my friends of old, the only things I still pine to return to, but I am now a person, and I doubt I would be able to connect to them if they came back anyway. Few things hurt worse than losing friends, especially when you are the reason they are gone.
sadly i don't feel much happiness in almost anything...very few things makes me happy. i am miserable cuz of the intensity of homework in the uni and the fact i feel i don't know what i want and that i am not smart enough for the studies i do or fast enough in doing things - but i do these things instead of getting some job somewhere i hate and just do whatever for now on, cuz i know that along the road i will regret i didn't try doing something i might feel more accomplishment and enjoy it.
moreover i feel that the things i might want, can cuz even more pain and sorrow and i won't be able to do those things.
so i am trying to think positive and say that the easy way is always available, so i better try the hard way and if i fail i can always go to the easy way.
so i am trying to do and enjoy the things that make me happy or somewhat happy so i won't go mad - while still doing those things that make me miserable so i won't regret it in the future.
i also sometimes wish i was anonymous and that if i die no1 will get hurt from it, but sadly i can't turn back time - and i know that some ppl will feel very very miserable and feel helpless if i die. so if let's say i kill myself i won't feel anything and will be oblivious about everything, but some ppl will have to live their whole life with the dark/empty spot in the mind and heart cuz i am not around. so i can never do that do them and hurt ppl that i love that way.
so bottom line is, try the hard way as much as u can - cuz easy way is always available. and if u feel miserable in anyway try find those small things that make u happy and stick to them.
hope the best for every1 so they find their pleasant spot and don't give up too easy.
I have also found that while my good friends are gone (I do have many friends, but nobody who is not a family member that is close to me), the introspection that void has given me has allowed me to at least reign in some of my behavior issues and think for myself about the issues in life. I still miss my friends of old, the only things I still pine to return to, but I am now a person, and I doubt I would be able to connect to them if they came back anyway. Few things hurt worse than losing friends, especially when you are the reason they are gone.
That's true. There were a few friends I would fall out with every now and then. I would end up missing them enough that I'd try to bring the friendship back to the level it was at. It never worked that way though, and most times history would repeat itself and we'd end up in the same spot. You basically have to just let go, and learn from it in those situations. I felt like I was cursed for a long time, because I'd end up being really close with a friend, and then they'd stop talking to me out of no where. Never understood why, I still don't, but I've learned that you can't force a friendship, and some things are better to just let go of and learn from them as best you can.
I also feel the same about old friends who I still feel I miss. If we were to start talking today I doubt we would connect in the same way that we used to. I've changed a lot in just this last year alone, so it's not like they would even know me anymore.
What keeps you going? Why do you feel comfortable and/or happy waking up the next day?
If you don't - and the feeling you have is that of one where you wish you wouldn't wake in the morning - why?
Just curious...
Until I found my girlfriend, I honestly didn't have a purpose. I sat there jobless and playing video games with no real reason to do shit lol; I figured, hey, never gonna do anything or get anywhere anyway. I went with the Chris Farley way of life lmao. But since I met my GF i've started my own business and on my way to a law degree now, so if I get up for any reason in particular, i'd say her.
What about losing the only person you've ever loved in your entire life? Especially when you're the reason they're gone?
I am not sure what you are asking, but I will try to answer anyway.
While I have emotionally loved many people in ages past, be it romantic love or brotherly love, only one person has come close to capturing my mind's affection. As with the start of many romance novels, I could never have her for she loved another. But I loved her enough to try to re-facilitate her relationship with her ex. I know now that trying to get back with the ex is a lot like waging a land war in Asia. Just don't. Anyway, Captain Hindsight is not my favorite super-hero. It didn't work out, I willingly sacrificed a whole lot, only to take it back. Ruined that friendship hard. But while I proved to her that I can be an ass, I also proved to myself how much of an ass I can be. That is good intel to have!
I have improved myself, refined what I seek in friends and relationships, refined how I engage with them and improved myself. I have also gone down many dark and self destructive paths and still tread them. I do not regret what I have done, only in the sense that guilt only gets you do far. What I did was wrong, I see that. I have let go of that guilt, otherwise it will only make me a worse person than the one who wronged my friend.
When I remember my friends, I do still pine for them. I do miss them, and that tells me that even though I may not be able to connect with them, if they called me and needed my help with something I would do it in a heartbeat. I do wonder what they have become now, which ties into one of my life's greater joys: other people.
Essentially, I keep going because I'm a human, and humans are innately curious, especially towards the situation they're in. In this case, what I mean when I say "situation" is in general, what state we're in, meaning "alive". We want to know what happens tomorrow, to person X and Y, and what happens to us, and consequently what happens in the near future/future.
With that being sad, I keep living because I have no reason to stop. I know death is coming and is something inevitable, so I feel it obsolete to reach that end now out of my own volition. I do not fear it, seeing as it's a necessary end, but rather know its inevitability, and try and make the best out of the situation that I'm currently in.
I don't know what's to come, and I don't know what happens when I die, but I do know that the serotonin and dopamine in my body are keeping me sufficiently happy at this juncture of existence. I feel comfortable and happy waking up the next day because I'm certain I'm gonna do things that are going to make me happy, see people who are going to make me happy, go to places that make me happy. People who aren't happy mainly have themselves to blame, but instead end up blaming fringe things like weight, beauty, and "life".
All things considered, life is beautiful. Its the additives that the political and economical elite added to it that made it turn into this consumerist monopolistic abyss of shit that it is today. As a consequence, things like body mass and hair color now reflect on people's sense of self worth, which in itself is something utterly sad, yet t the same time funny., that we could all be so easily fooled into such nonsense. Humans can find happiness in a grain of sand, yet have reached a phase where the riches of the world do not suffice.
I never feel so down that I can't get out of bed. That's just silly.
I don't know if any of what I said made as much sense as it did in my head, but I feel that it's like explaining or narrating an acid trip, where you know the base of it all, but it's hard to materialize it into concrete words, concepts, and general ideas.
I've also only ever really had one or two close friends at a time. Over the last few years though, those relationships have drifted apart. I've completely lost touch with one of my friends, and the other we're just not as close anymore for some reason. I think part of it was on me though. I feel I've messed things up before and I've had to distance myself a bit from people. I guess it's a defense mechanism of sorts. I've been more comfortable and able to focus on my own life though because of it, so I don't think it's a bad thing. It's about time I've focused on myself anyway.
You should keep in mind that there is never a bad time to repair relationships. I mean, they were once your very close friends and would probably become that again as long as you feel up to the task to contact them and tell them more about how you've been recently and explain some of the things you've written here. If you are ready for that, of course.
Friendships may be put on hold during hard times, but will rarely disappear if they (and you) are true to one another.
I do agree with you, but it depends on the friendship as well. There are one or two people I could probably contact and start to repair things. There was one case, however, where the person would always go back to treating me like shit. I basically had to end things because I wasn't going to let this person keep treating me this way. Yes, we were best friends at one point, but to me it's not worth it to put myself in a situation like that again. I do see this person around time to time, and I can act kind toward them, I'm not a nasty person, but it won't go beyond casual conversation.
Maybe the others I will contact at some point, but I feel like I've got too much to worry about right now to really try to repair anything like that.
90% of life is stupid bullshit. If you tolerate it, sometimes it tolerates you.
"The key to happiness is low expectations."
I also have to spend a lot of time telling myself I am the only sane person left on earth otherwise I will suffer a complete mental breakdown.
I don't really understand what the question is that you're asking, but I'll assume it's whether the phrase you quoted is accurate or not. Really, it's not so much having low expectations, it's being in control of your sense of entitlement. Being happy is only wrongfully inhibited by actually caring about stuff that you really have no control over.
If you have control over something bad in your life, you can work to change it and that at least brings you some peace of mind. Being happy is learning to not give a shit about all the things you can't control, and accepting your little lot in life.
You can have high expectations for that lot if you want, and it may not work out as well as having low expectations, but I'd say the real issue is people worrying too much about things they can't control.
EDIT: Oh, wow. That wasn't even the Op. My bad. What keeps me going is the ideal of cultivating my little lot in life into something that I can feel proud of. Being accomplished in my education, having people I trust and love, and having a decent quality of life in other areas like entertainment (DIABLO 3 :D)
I have Aspergers and OCD, and sometimes the challenges those present suck to have to deal with, but I can't control that. I can only really work to live with it, and I do feel accomplished if I can successfully deal with those things. What keeps me going if the prospect of being happy, and being a better person, really.
my family, to know that i need to be there for my family, just as much as they need me.
This!! I have 3 amazing kids and the best wife EVER!!! Having my youngest son jump out of bed and race to the door in the mornings to give me a hug before I go to work melts my heart every single time.
@tankodiablo, Thanks for your service to our country
my family, to know that i need to be there for my family, just as much as they need me.
This!! I have 3 amazing kids and the best wife EVER!!! Having my youngest son jump out of bed and race to the door in the mornings to give me a hug before I go to work melts my heart every single time.
@tankodiablo, Thanks for your service to our country
you are very very welcome
sorry dont know why it multi quoted, i didnt even hit that button but oh well.
It is such a shitty feeling when absolutely all motivation to do anything is sucked out of you because one person likes to take their stress out on everyone around them and make them miserable.
I very rarely have a bad night these days, but this is definitely one of them. Really fucks me up and I wish I could just go to bed but I can't calm down enough to do that.
I kind of always just wake up thinking i'm moving closer towards something, whether it be close or in the far future. Like my g/f and I are supposed to be moving together soon by the end of this month and I'm relocating to a whole new state, so that's kind of why I wake up. Then after that's achieved something new would come up and itll just repeat.
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Haha, this is full of winsauce! I think I will print it and post it on my wall.
That and beer might go on sale.
I have also found that while my good friends are gone (I do have many friends, but nobody who is not a family member that is close to me), the introspection that void has given me has allowed me to at least reign in some of my behavior issues and think for myself about the issues in life. I still miss my friends of old, the only things I still pine to return to, but I am now a person, and I doubt I would be able to connect to them if they came back anyway. Few things hurt worse than losing friends, especially when you are the reason they are gone.
Edit: I'm also terribly bored in life. I love my dog & my family but the idea that I still have like 5years of education ahead of me is killer.
moreover i feel that the things i might want, can cuz even more pain and sorrow and i won't be able to do those things.
so i am trying to think positive and say that the easy way is always available, so i better try the hard way and if i fail i can always go to the easy way.
so i am trying to do and enjoy the things that make me happy or somewhat happy so i won't go mad - while still doing those things that make me miserable so i won't regret it in the future.
i also sometimes wish i was anonymous and that if i die no1 will get hurt from it, but sadly i can't turn back time - and i know that some ppl will feel very very miserable and feel helpless if i die. so if let's say i kill myself i won't feel anything and will be oblivious about everything, but some ppl will have to live their whole life with the dark/empty spot in the mind and heart cuz i am not around. so i can never do that do them and hurt ppl that i love that way.
so bottom line is, try the hard way as much as u can - cuz easy way is always available. and if u feel miserable in anyway try find those small things that make u happy and stick to them.
hope the best for every1 so they find their pleasant spot and don't give up too easy.
best regards,
Arrok
That's true. There were a few friends I would fall out with every now and then. I would end up missing them enough that I'd try to bring the friendship back to the level it was at. It never worked that way though, and most times history would repeat itself and we'd end up in the same spot. You basically have to just let go, and learn from it in those situations. I felt like I was cursed for a long time, because I'd end up being really close with a friend, and then they'd stop talking to me out of no where. Never understood why, I still don't, but I've learned that you can't force a friendship, and some things are better to just let go of and learn from them as best you can.
I also feel the same about old friends who I still feel I miss. If we were to start talking today I doubt we would connect in the same way that we used to. I've changed a lot in just this last year alone, so it's not like they would even know me anymore.
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Keep on fighting!
Until I found my girlfriend, I honestly didn't have a purpose. I sat there jobless and playing video games with no real reason to do shit lol; I figured, hey, never gonna do anything or get anywhere anyway. I went with the Chris Farley way of life lmao. But since I met my GF i've started my own business and on my way to a law degree now, so if I get up for any reason in particular, i'd say her.
Videos like this make life worth living. If it makes me laugh, it's worth it.
I am not sure what you are asking, but I will try to answer anyway.
While I have emotionally loved many people in ages past, be it romantic love or brotherly love, only one person has come close to capturing my mind's affection. As with the start of many romance novels, I could never have her for she loved another. But I loved her enough to try to re-facilitate her relationship with her ex. I know now that trying to get back with the ex is a lot like waging a land war in Asia. Just don't. Anyway, Captain Hindsight is not my favorite super-hero. It didn't work out, I willingly sacrificed a whole lot, only to take it back. Ruined that friendship hard. But while I proved to her that I can be an ass, I also proved to myself how much of an ass I can be. That is good intel to have!
I have improved myself, refined what I seek in friends and relationships, refined how I engage with them and improved myself. I have also gone down many dark and self destructive paths and still tread them. I do not regret what I have done, only in the sense that guilt only gets you do far. What I did was wrong, I see that. I have let go of that guilt, otherwise it will only make me a worse person than the one who wronged my friend.
When I remember my friends, I do still pine for them. I do miss them, and that tells me that even though I may not be able to connect with them, if they called me and needed my help with something I would do it in a heartbeat. I do wonder what they have become now, which ties into one of my life's greater joys: other people.
"The key to happiness is low expectations."
I also have to spend a lot of time telling myself I am the only sane person left on earth otherwise I will suffer a complete mental breakdown.
With that being sad, I keep living because I have no reason to stop. I know death is coming and is something inevitable, so I feel it obsolete to reach that end now out of my own volition. I do not fear it, seeing as it's a necessary end, but rather know its inevitability, and try and make the best out of the situation that I'm currently in.
I don't know what's to come, and I don't know what happens when I die, but I do know that the serotonin and dopamine in my body are keeping me sufficiently happy at this juncture of existence. I feel comfortable and happy waking up the next day because I'm certain I'm gonna do things that are going to make me happy, see people who are going to make me happy, go to places that make me happy. People who aren't happy mainly have themselves to blame, but instead end up blaming fringe things like weight, beauty, and "life".
All things considered, life is beautiful. Its the additives that the political and economical elite added to it that made it turn into this consumerist monopolistic abyss of shit that it is today. As a consequence, things like body mass and hair color now reflect on people's sense of self worth, which in itself is something utterly sad, yet t the same time funny., that we could all be so easily fooled into such nonsense. Humans can find happiness in a grain of sand, yet have reached a phase where the riches of the world do not suffice.
I never feel so down that I can't get out of bed. That's just silly.
I don't know if any of what I said made as much sense as it did in my head, but I feel that it's like explaining or narrating an acid trip, where you know the base of it all, but it's hard to materialize it into concrete words, concepts, and general ideas.
I'm not ready to die yet. I need to experience more life.
I do agree with you, but it depends on the friendship as well. There are one or two people I could probably contact and start to repair things. There was one case, however, where the person would always go back to treating me like shit. I basically had to end things because I wasn't going to let this person keep treating me this way. Yes, we were best friends at one point, but to me it's not worth it to put myself in a situation like that again. I do see this person around time to time, and I can act kind toward them, I'm not a nasty person, but it won't go beyond casual conversation.
Maybe the others I will contact at some point, but I feel like I've got too much to worry about right now to really try to repair anything like that.
I don't really understand what the question is that you're asking, but I'll assume it's whether the phrase you quoted is accurate or not. Really, it's not so much having low expectations, it's being in control of your sense of entitlement. Being happy is only wrongfully inhibited by actually caring about stuff that you really have no control over.
If you have control over something bad in your life, you can work to change it and that at least brings you some peace of mind. Being happy is learning to not give a shit about all the things you can't control, and accepting your little lot in life.
You can have high expectations for that lot if you want, and it may not work out as well as having low expectations, but I'd say the real issue is people worrying too much about things they can't control.
EDIT: Oh, wow. That wasn't even the Op. My bad. What keeps me going is the ideal of cultivating my little lot in life into something that I can feel proud of. Being accomplished in my education, having people I trust and love, and having a decent quality of life in other areas like entertainment (DIABLO 3 :D)
I have Aspergers and OCD, and sometimes the challenges those present suck to have to deal with, but I can't control that. I can only really work to live with it, and I do feel accomplished if I can successfully deal with those things. What keeps me going if the prospect of being happy, and being a better person, really.
sorry dont know why it multi quoted, i didnt even hit that button but oh well.
I very rarely have a bad night these days, but this is definitely one of them. Really fucks me up and I wish I could just go to bed but I can't calm down enough to do that.