It's me again, and I'm here reporting with sweaty palms and a 104 temperature not knowing what to do in this situation.
Okay, so a couple days ago, me and my parents got into this fight, which usually ended up being very emotional and very stressful and since I was raised in a European culture, my dad hit me on the head as hard as he could. So a couple days later, I started to notice some cuncussion symptoms, including nasuea and dizziness, resulting in another day out of school (I had a virus a couple days ago as well). So I tell my sister (who's out of college) about the whole situation and today, all of a sudden, my mom calls me that my sister wants to call the police since he has officially gone too far.
So now I'm here, not knowing what to do. And know, my dad is a very hard person to live with since he is very anti-social and emotional. My sister hates him and I don't a great relationship with him either. But still, I do love him and I really don't want the family to be split apart with all this.
I don't think anyone here can really tell you what to do. But one thing that's obvious is your dad needs therapy. Either for himself alone or possibly to have group therapy sessions with your entire family.
You most likely were concussed from that blow to the head. It's good your sister is looking out for you so well.
It's a complicated situation. I mean my sister is one my best friends and she's almost like a second mom to me. But still, group therapy would be better.
Anti-social, emotional father who beats his son? Borderline PD much? I'd say have him go to Hell. Group therapy may help or it may not, I guess they could at least figure out what's up with him. But sometimes you have to accept that one of your parents isn't exactly an amazing person, and you need to get on with your life, not fix your dad's emotional issues...
I was raised in a European culture, my dad would never hit me... ever... he never does anything of that sort to anyone close, in fact. That's just overboard.
Spanking is one thing, hitting your son hard enough to give him a concussion is another. Don't accuse yourself of anything here, if your family gets separated momentarily it's not your fault, it's your dad's. You're not the one who's a danger to the ones he loves, your dad is. He needs serious help for the sake of you and your family. Who knows how many of your other family members have been injured due to his rage and were too afraid to do something about it? Your sister seems to hate the man, maybe he's taken his anger out physically on her too?
Look up local "social services" either online or in your phone book. These are people who's sole job is to talk to families in trouble and help them sort it out. You can tell them your story and if they feel like something needs to be done they can do anything from arranging family therapy sessions to an arrest. I'm not saying anyone's going to arrest your dad, but they hear about these situations all day and they know exactly what steps are necessary. If you're confused about what to do, they'll tell you exactly what to do.
dealing with your family situation is important. But with those symptoms the first thing you should do is either see a doctor or go to the hospital to get yourself checked out. It might just be a mild concussion, but with a 104 degree fever, nausea, and dizziness, you really need to make sure this isn't serious.
I am not a doctor and this is not medical advice. I am just telling you what I would be doing in your situation.
I don't think anyone here can really tell you what to do. But one thing that's obvious is your dad needs therapy. Either for himself alone or possibly to have group therapy sessions with your entire family.
But he asked for help, denying it would be pretty bad too. A conscient advice wouldn't hurt anyone.
Maybe just make him see how serious this situation is.. hitting a son like this is no game, it could actually kill the person, if he doesn't realize that by himself, then a couple months in jail might make him see it..
Don't worry about breaking your family appart, it's better to solve this problem now while something can still be done, than have it torn apart later by his behaviour..
At least, that's my opinion. Since you asked for it
Spanking is one thing, hitting your son hard enough to give him a concussion is another. Don't accuse yourself of anything here, if your family gets separated momentarily it's not your fault, it's your dad's. You're not the one who's a danger to the ones he loves, your dad is.
I find that it's sometimes easier to spill out my biggest problems to people I don't know.
I told him to ask trained proffessionals that he's never met before and might never actually meet...
And I'm not telling him that he shouldn't seek advice, I'm just saying that I don't trust the internet as a source of good information. While it's true you might get good advice from it, getting it from someone you can directly interact with (or even better - someone who knows you well) will always be better.
And I'm not telling him that he shouldn't seek advice, I'm just saying that I don't trust the internet as a source of good information. While it's true you might get good advice from it, getting it from someone you can directly interact with (or even better - someone who knows you well) will always be better.
I think he may have also been asking for advice not necessarily to be told specifically what to do, but just to get some moral support. And even then the internet my not be the place place to find that. But if anyone here is willing to lend him that support, then that's perfectly okay.
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I was raised in a European culture, my dad would never hit me... ever... he never does anything of that sort to anyone close, in fact. That's just overboard.
Yeah that's what I love about European culture. No one hits their kids. Ever. :confused:
By hitting I mean real injury aka hits to the head and such. Spanking is not included here.
And I wasn't talking about European culture. I was talking specifically about my dad, who's (sorta) European culture. So I don't understand what you're on about.
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Find a help phone line or something like that. People who are actually trained to deal with this sort of thing and/or give advice on what to do.
That stuff is often harder to get to than you think. Dfans is right here. And the effectiveness of a given "professional" is variable.
This is one of those decisions that must be made as a family "excluding daddy" Tough break though.:( Keep your chin up, all storms have silver linings.
Thanks guys for everything you've done so far. It's not really just asking for help also, it's more a thing where I have to talk about it, and talking to people who can't see your face is sometimes better.
plz man goto a good doc or hospital and get urself properly checked if u have not done so!
As far as ur dad is concerned i think he needs to go to a pschyiatrist b'coz the situation has gone fubar!
The pschyiatrist will provide the right therapy b'coz ur pops needs to get his head cleared!
Believe coz most of my frnds r doctors and i myself have 3 docs in my family including myself!
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Okay, so a couple days ago, me and my parents got into this fight, which usually ended up being very emotional and very stressful and since I was raised in a European culture, my dad hit me on the head as hard as he could. So a couple days later, I started to notice some cuncussion symptoms, including nasuea and dizziness, resulting in another day out of school (I had a virus a couple days ago as well). So I tell my sister (who's out of college) about the whole situation and today, all of a sudden, my mom calls me that my sister wants to call the police since he has officially gone too far.
So now I'm here, not knowing what to do. And know, my dad is a very hard person to live with since he is very anti-social and emotional. My sister hates him and I don't a great relationship with him either. But still, I do love him and I really don't want the family to be split apart with all this.
I really don't know what to do. Help me guys.
You most likely were concussed from that blow to the head. It's good your sister is looking out for you so well.
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1man up and beat the piss out of ur dad
2move in with ur sis
its not supposed to be a nice game
autostats are rediclous
lack of pots is not welcome
if it aint broke dont fix it! (diablo2)
I was raised in a European culture, my dad would never hit me... ever... he never does anything of that sort to anyone close, in fact. That's just overboard.
Look up local "social services" either online or in your phone book. These are people who's sole job is to talk to families in trouble and help them sort it out. You can tell them your story and if they feel like something needs to be done they can do anything from arranging family therapy sessions to an arrest. I'm not saying anyone's going to arrest your dad, but they hear about these situations all day and they know exactly what steps are necessary. If you're confused about what to do, they'll tell you exactly what to do.
I am not a doctor and this is not medical advice. I am just telling you what I would be doing in your situation.
Find a help phone line or something like that. People who are actually trained to deal with this sort of thing and/or give advice on what to do.
Maybe just make him see how serious this situation is.. hitting a son like this is no game, it could actually kill the person, if he doesn't realize that by himself, then a couple months in jail might make him see it..
Don't worry about breaking your family appart, it's better to solve this problem now while something can still be done, than have it torn apart later by his behaviour..
At least, that's my opinion. Since you asked for it
Pretty much sums up my answer..
Hearing someone else's advice is sometimes good.
And thanks guys.
I find that it's sometimes easier to spill out my biggest problems to people I don't know.
I told him to ask trained proffessionals that he's never met before and might never actually meet...
And I'm not telling him that he shouldn't seek advice, I'm just saying that I don't trust the internet as a source of good information. While it's true you might get good advice from it, getting it from someone you can directly interact with (or even better - someone who knows you well) will always be better.
Yeah that's what I love about European culture. No one hits their kids. Ever. :confused:
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And I wasn't talking about European culture. I was talking specifically about my dad, who's (sorta) European culture. So I don't understand what you're on about. That stuff is often harder to get to than you think. Dfans is right here. And the effectiveness of a given "professional" is variable.
BTW i love this diablo 3 news lol (wrong section)
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As far as ur dad is concerned i think he needs to go to a pschyiatrist b'coz the situation has gone fubar!
The pschyiatrist will provide the right therapy b'coz ur pops needs to get his head cleared!
Believe coz most of my frnds r doctors and i myself have 3 docs in my family including myself!
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