@Aerisot No, for someone 28 I wouldn't be a cougar. Ha! And you are right about his sexuality contributing to his creating his own religion.
@Red Panda LOL!
@Tanis I aggree with you that there are areas where bendign the truth a little doesn't seem as big a deal in the early parts of a relationship. It's very common, and the reality is that you have to be able to read between the lines a bit to figure out what you are actually getting into.
In your example, the girl sounds like someone who is just after money. This might sound harsh, but if you try to use someone, and they flip it and use you, that's just karma. I wouldn't feel any sympathy for her if she got lied to. And I also wouldn't feel bad for the burger flipping doctor, ir he burned all his paycheck trying to impress her and had to walk to work and starve all week. They bascially deesrve eachother.
I don't think this is a real story, but it involves some interesting concepts.
I think misrepresenting yourself on that level to get in someone's pants is selfish. When someone is making decisions about sex, they should be making the decisions based on a realistic understanding of who their partner is, and what their motives are. If you are an athiest, there are plenty of potential dates who are either also athiest, or flexible enough not to mind seeing someone with different ideas. If you are looking for a one night stand, or a sexual relationship with no strings attached, that's not too hard to find either.
Tricking somone who wouldn't be open to what you are looking for, and getting them in bed by lying is just wrong and pointless.
Idk, if they would break up with you because you aren't religion, then wouldn't it be the girl who is acting selfish?
It's a matter of opinion. Personally, I think you have a right to choose who you want a sexual relationship with based on compatability if you want. If wanting someone who shares your religious beliefs is part of your criteria, that's your own business.
It's not how I feel personally. I'm agnoistic, in a relationship with a gnostic. In the past I've dated christians, ahtiets, and a guy who literally invented his own religion. I don't care. But if someone does care, that's their right and they deserve the truth.
Being a christian, she's probably looking for someone who wants a marriage, a commited relationship, and someone into the whole family thing. She probably wants someone who shares her faith. If that's what she wants, pretending you can offer that to effect her decisions isn't right in my opinion.
Just go find someone compatible.
The Fonz?
No. He had pretty much nothing in common with the Fonz. In his religion, everyone's souls were represented by animals, and... well, I never discussed the rest. Our dating relationship was pretty turbulent and brief. He was a nice guy. Sweet and intelligent. But he was fragile, dramatic, and bi leaning gay as it turned out.
I met him and his boyfriend a few months ago and they seemed happy and looked like a much better match than he and I were. LOL!
I guess since we only dated twice, it doesn't seem fair to count him for this discussion. But the point was that the religious part was fine with me; even when he told me that in his eyes my totem animal was a flamingo, when I was expecting to be a lioness or something. At least he didn't say cougar. I would have killed him. I actually decided I liked the flamingo thing after I thought about it a while.
I don't think this is a real story, but it involves some interesting concepts.
I think misrepresenting yourself on that level to get in someone's pants is selfish. When someone is making decisions about sex, they should be making the decisions based on a realistic understanding of who their partner is, and what their motives are. If you are an athiest, there are plenty of potential dates who are either also athiest, or flexible enough not to mind seeing someone with different ideas. If you are looking for a one night stand, or a sexual relationship with no strings attached, that's not too hard to find either.
Tricking somone who wouldn't be open to what you are looking for, and getting them in bed by lying is just wrong and pointless.
Idk, if they would break up with you because you aren't religion, then wouldn't it be the girl who is acting selfish?
It's a matter of opinion. Personally, I think you have a right to choose who you want a sexual relationship with based on compatability if you want. If wanting someone who shares your religious beliefs is part of your criteria, that's your own business.
It's not how I feel personally. I'm agnoistic, in a relationship with a gnostic. In the past I've dated christians, ahtiets, and a guy who literally invented his own religion. I don't care. But if someone does care, that's their right and they deserve the truth.
Being a christian, she's probably looking for someone who wants a marriage, a commited relationship, and someone into the whole family thing. She probably wants someone who shares her faith. If that's what she wants, pretending you can offer that to effect her decisions isn't right in my opinion.
I don't think this is a real story, but it involves some interesting concepts.
I think misrepresenting yourself on that level to get in someone's pants is selfish. When someone is making decisions about sex, they should be making the decisions based on a realistic understanding of who their partner is, and what their motives are. If you are an athiest, there are plenty of potential dates who are either also athiest, or flexible enough not to mind seeing someone with different ideas. If you are looking for a one night stand, or a sexual relationship with no strings attached, that's not too hard to find either.
Tricking somone who wouldn't be open to what you are looking for, and getting them in bed by lying is just wrong and pointless.
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@Red Panda LOL!
@Tanis I aggree with you that there are areas where bendign the truth a little doesn't seem as big a deal in the early parts of a relationship. It's very common, and the reality is that you have to be able to read between the lines a bit to figure out what you are actually getting into.
In your example, the girl sounds like someone who is just after money. This might sound harsh, but if you try to use someone, and they flip it and use you, that's just karma. I wouldn't feel any sympathy for her if she got lied to. And I also wouldn't feel bad for the burger flipping doctor, ir he burned all his paycheck trying to impress her and had to walk to work and starve all week. They bascially deesrve eachother.
No. He had pretty much nothing in common with the Fonz. In his religion, everyone's souls were represented by animals, and... well, I never discussed the rest. Our dating relationship was pretty turbulent and brief. He was a nice guy. Sweet and intelligent. But he was fragile, dramatic, and bi leaning gay as it turned out.
I met him and his boyfriend a few months ago and they seemed happy and looked like a much better match than he and I were. LOL!
I guess since we only dated twice, it doesn't seem fair to count him for this discussion. But the point was that the religious part was fine with me; even when he told me that in his eyes my totem animal was a flamingo, when I was expecting to be a lioness or something. At least he didn't say cougar. I would have killed him. I actually decided I liked the flamingo thing after I thought about it a while.
It's a matter of opinion. Personally, I think you have a right to choose who you want a sexual relationship with based on compatability if you want. If wanting someone who shares your religious beliefs is part of your criteria, that's your own business.
It's not how I feel personally. I'm agnoistic, in a relationship with a gnostic. In the past I've dated christians, ahtiets, and a guy who literally invented his own religion. I don't care. But if someone does care, that's their right and they deserve the truth.
Being a christian, she's probably looking for someone who wants a marriage, a commited relationship, and someone into the whole family thing. She probably wants someone who shares her faith. If that's what she wants, pretending you can offer that to effect her decisions isn't right in my opinion.
Just go find someone compatible.
I think misrepresenting yourself on that level to get in someone's pants is selfish. When someone is making decisions about sex, they should be making the decisions based on a realistic understanding of who their partner is, and what their motives are. If you are an athiest, there are plenty of potential dates who are either also athiest, or flexible enough not to mind seeing someone with different ideas. If you are looking for a one night stand, or a sexual relationship with no strings attached, that's not too hard to find either.
Tricking somone who wouldn't be open to what you are looking for, and getting them in bed by lying is just wrong and pointless.