what are your thoughts on this odd human condition... just generally speaking. be it to do with women, friends, fitness level, money, sports, fame, countries, learning... etc
Essentially, the human feeling that what you have is never good enough is just a motivational instinct that has been programmed into us to promote health and the pursuit of improving the quality of our life.
The better your life is, the longer you'll live. (Essentially).
I think it's just the way it is. I am hopeful that some day people can aspire for more than materialistic things and truly unify humanity and work towards bettering ourselves. I know this may come off as somewhat commie, but that's not my intent, just my lack of vocabulary able to express what I mean lol.
Truth is, it can be a good thing for me. It makes me strive to do better, work harder and become more. If we didn't have goals, we'd just exist.
having said that, I enjoy the hunt, the challenge. It's what makes us better imo.
i find in particular that young males and females (especially in the teens) always want what they cant have. eventually though this fades a degree and thats when people start to realize (translates to settle down), that they have to accept that they might have to live with someone/something who/that isnt perfect. looking back now and talking to people who are still in the prime of it... amuses... but must of all frustrates me and annoys me
/end rant lol
people who ultimately cant live with they have (constantly searching for greener pastures) are doomed to be less happy than someone who is willing to accept what they have and be happy.. thats what iv found at least
i find in particular that young males and females (especially in the teens) always want what they cant have. eventually though this fades a degree and thats when people start to realize (translates to settle down), that they have to accept that they might have to live with someone/something who/that isnt perfect. looking back now and talking to people who are still in the prime of it... amuses... but must of all frustrates me and annoys me
/end rant lol
Totally dude. It's because this age group was (back when we were still hunter/gatherers) the primary age for dominance within the tribe. We had to work hard for everything back then and the urge to succeed and take command has stuck with us into this modern age where everything is done for us.
Perhaps my age does protect me from some realities of life. But I also think there is a difference between wanting to be extremely wealthy and simply getting a stable job that puts roof over head and food on the table. Both can be goals.
And although it can be argued that once you get what you were after you're never as happy as you thought you'd be, the same could be said with simply settling for what you have if you're not happy with it. In both cases you're a miserable old man yelling at kids you git of yer lawn!
Despite my inexperience in life (I'm about to turn 23) I still value the idea that if you set goals that are realistically attainable with results that will benefit you and yours, the grass can be greener. At least on the lawns where the old farts aren't yelling at you.
I remember my friend, he could basically get any girl he wanted in school. Then one day, he jokingly asked a girl out who was way beneath him, and she sad no. A few months later, he was totally obsessing about that girl. Weird how that goes.
Another thing is that marriage is something to opposes this. When you marry, you are stuck to one person, and you cannot improve any further. I find this interesting, as it seems to go against human nature. Then again, if you really can't get any better anyway, I guess you could settle for someone. The problem comes when that someone suddenly becomes less interesting than they used to be (we've all been there. Well, I have). I'm fully convinced marriage was invented by women anyway
Don't really know where I'm going with this, just thinking.
I think you're totally wrong about marriage. Who says your life can't continue to get better just because you're with one person? If you truly love that person, then things should continue to be more enjoyable every day.
I, for one, am really looking forward to eventually getting married and having kids. It's my ultimate goal in life (far more so than fame or riches or anything like that).
I remember my friend, he could basically get any girl he wanted in school. Then one day, he jokingly asked a girl out who was way beneath him, and she sad no. A few months later, he was totally obsessing about that girl. Weird how that goes.
Another thing is that marriage is something to opposes this. When you marry, you are stuck to one person, and you cannot improve any further. I find this interesting, as it seems to go against human nature. Then again, if you really can't get any better anyway, I guess you could settle for someone. The problem comes when that someone suddenly becomes less interesting than they used to be (we've all been there. Well, I have). I'm fully convinced marriage was invented by women anyway
Don't really know where I'm going with this, just thinking.
I've never been married, but I think what would make marriage interesting is rediscovering that person you're with. Over time, people change and discovering that change can be just as exciting, surprising and welcome as it can be regretful. The thing is you initially had something in common, right? or am I being too optimistic?
I can't say I ever want what I can't have. If I do, I don't realize it. I mostly just want what I actually want... nor have I ever noticed someone wanting what they can't have. I've heard about this "condition" before but I've never seen it with me or anyone I know.
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"Cards and flowers on your window, your friends all plead for you to stay,
sometimes beginnings aren't so simple, sometimes goodbye's the only way."
About marriage, I remember hearing about a study that found the dopaminergic response to seeing a loved one tends to die out after about 9 months for most people. Same as our gestation period, it makes sense biologically. Now hope isn't lost. They have also found that some couples (dubbed 'swans') get the reward response years later, just as strongly.
Everything in life is a drug, essentially. Once you get the stimulus from whatever 'it' is often enough, it becomes routine, mundane. The reward response in your brain weakens.
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That they have to accept that they might have to live with someone/something who/that isn't perfect.
Nothing in this world is perfect. That doesn't mean that we can't appreciate what we have..I think that's most peoples problem actually. Hell, I'm just happy to have a roof over my head, food on the table, a family that loves me and a good bill of health.
I'd have to say for myself here that there is no "catch" there is only "the chase". In my view things are always progressing, I'm always growing as a person. When I find someone who I'm going to spend the rest of my life with; the same will apply, because I will chose someone who wants to constantly grow. In my opinion if someone just gets to a point and says "ok I'm done" you are totally missing out on life. To me it's about the journey, not the destination..I guess that will come when I die and go onto whatever is after this. (wow that should open up a can of worms)
Actually it shouldn't as that new discussion would be totally off-topic.
Anyways - I think one of the keys to a continued happy marriage is finding new things to do together. If you fall into a routine, you're bound to be less happy than a couple that is more spontaneous and can take risks every now and then. Perfectly within reason. Keep chasing what you want and you will not grow tired of it.
Anyways - I think one of the keys to a continued happy marriage is finding new things to do together. If you fall into a routine, you're bound to be less happy than a couple that is more spontaneous and can take risks every now and then. Perfectly within reason. Keep chasing what you want and you will not grow tired of it.
I've never been married, but I totally agree. You have to want to experience things together and do new things. In my eyes there is always more out there to do and see. I find that if you constantly open yourself to new things you will never be unhappy together, because things will never become stagnant.
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Essentially, the human feeling that what you have is never good enough is just a motivational instinct that has been programmed into us to promote health and the pursuit of improving the quality of our life.
The better your life is, the longer you'll live. (Essentially).
Truth is, it can be a good thing for me. It makes me strive to do better, work harder and become more. If we didn't have goals, we'd just exist.
having said that, I enjoy the hunt, the challenge. It's what makes us better imo.
Nice topic. I like it!
/end rant lol
people who ultimately cant live with they have (constantly searching for greener pastures) are doomed to be less happy than someone who is willing to accept what they have and be happy.. thats what iv found at least
Totally dude. It's because this age group was (back when we were still hunter/gatherers) the primary age for dominance within the tribe. We had to work hard for everything back then and the urge to succeed and take command has stuck with us into this modern age where everything is done for us.
sigh....
"to the worm in horseradish, the world is horseradish."
And although it can be argued that once you get what you were after you're never as happy as you thought you'd be, the same could be said with simply settling for what you have if you're not happy with it. In both cases you're a miserable old man yelling at kids you git of yer lawn!
Despite my inexperience in life (I'm about to turn 23) I still value the idea that if you set goals that are realistically attainable with results that will benefit you and yours, the grass can be greener. At least on the lawns where the old farts aren't yelling at you.
maybe D3...
"to the worm in horseradish, the world is horseradish."
I think you're totally wrong about marriage. Who says your life can't continue to get better just because you're with one person? If you truly love that person, then things should continue to be more enjoyable every day.
I, for one, am really looking forward to eventually getting married and having kids. It's my ultimate goal in life (far more so than fame or riches or anything like that).
I've never been married, but I think what would make marriage interesting is rediscovering that person you're with. Over time, people change and discovering that change can be just as exciting, surprising and welcome as it can be regretful. The thing is you initially had something in common, right? or am I being too optimistic?
"Cards and flowers on your window, your friends all plead for you to stay,
sometimes beginnings aren't so simple, sometimes goodbye's the only way."
nintendo 64!!!
"Cards and flowers on your window, your friends all plead for you to stay,
sometimes beginnings aren't so simple, sometimes goodbye's the only way."
hehe, no, it just reminded me of that youtube video where all the kid wanted was an n64.
sorry lol
"Cards and flowers on your window, your friends all plead for you to stay,
sometimes beginnings aren't so simple, sometimes goodbye's the only way."
Everything in life is a drug, essentially. Once you get the stimulus from whatever 'it' is often enough, it becomes routine, mundane. The reward response in your brain weakens.
-Hunter S. Thompson
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Nothing in this world is perfect. That doesn't mean that we can't appreciate what we have..I think that's most peoples problem actually. Hell, I'm just happy to have a roof over my head, food on the table, a family that loves me and a good bill of health.
I'd have to say for myself here that there is no "catch" there is only "the chase". In my view things are always progressing, I'm always growing as a person. When I find someone who I'm going to spend the rest of my life with; the same will apply, because I will chose someone who wants to constantly grow. In my opinion if someone just gets to a point and says "ok I'm done" you are totally missing out on life. To me it's about the journey, not the destination..I guess that will come when I die and go onto whatever is after this. (wow that should open up a can of worms)
Actually it shouldn't as that new discussion would be totally off-topic.
Anyways - I think one of the keys to a continued happy marriage is finding new things to do together. If you fall into a routine, you're bound to be less happy than a couple that is more spontaneous and can take risks every now and then. Perfectly within reason. Keep chasing what you want and you will not grow tired of it.
I've never been married, but I totally agree. You have to want to experience things together and do new things. In my eyes there is always more out there to do and see. I find that if you constantly open yourself to new things you will never be unhappy together, because things will never become stagnant.