A suggestion for making gf/spouse enjoy release

  • #21
    ITT: we treat our partners like pets. I jest but I have to agree with other posters i couldn't be with someone who gets shitty at me for playing games, everyone needs time to do their own thing. I don't get shitty at her for doing the laundry.....
  • #22
    Quote from carlwiliams

    ITT: we treat our partners like pets. I jest but I have to agree with other posters i couldn't be with someone who gets shitty at me for playing games, everyone needs time to do their own thing. I don't get shitty at her for doing the laundry.....


    You might if she was doing the laundry for fun instead of sexing you up.
  • #23
    Quote from drclawixp

    Quote from carlwiliams

    ITT: we treat our partners like pets. I jest but I have to agree with other posters i couldn't be with someone who gets shitty at me for playing games, everyone needs time to do their own thing. I don't get shitty at her for doing the laundry.....


    You might if she was doing the laundry for fun instead of sexing you up.

    I don't really classify sexy time as "doing your own thing" but touché none the less :P
  • #24
    Quote from UrDum

    Quote from troy

    in my experience all the things you did leading up to the game will go out the window on the day of release and things like "why don't you do those things anymore" start coming out of the woodwork. if anything you may very well have made it worse for yourself.

    competition win is genius though.


    My thoughts exactly. We should want to help out on a daily basis but sometimes that isn't enough. The nagging will start again eventually anyway.

    The funniest thing is that women say they want a guy that will cook, clean, etc. Then, once they get it, they aren't satisfied. It's sad to think of it like this but I've learned it's better to not overachieve when it comes to being a good spouse/significant other. They end up expecting more and more and then get angry when you can't deliver.


    If they don't raise expectations when you deliver, or you meet raised expectations, they get angry at you for being too perfect and find ways to punish you for that.

    On weekends I'd always bring breakfast in bed to one of my ex's. Most nights I also took care of dinner (I am always the better cook in comparison to anyone I've come across), and in general I was also in charge of lunches and even, oh what's the word, it's like the British way of saying you're tolerating something... entertain, that's it. I even entertained her bento box phase. I kept the kitchen clean, and did the vacuuming. I went and took her shopping, without any form of gripe or complaint. I went with her to her friend's fashion shows, as well as parties (I didn't complain, but she knew that I abhor large social events). I'd go out with her to dance clubs, even though that still falls under the same category of pointless large social gathering in my book, without any second questions or qualms.
    I wasn't whipped, just I'm generally committed to being nice and polite, something akin to a real life Wilson, although I lack the selfish real life version of House that will look out for my well being so that I'm there to smother him with attention.
    Anyways that ex got upset with me on a handful of occasions because I was "too perfect". Now I'm fully aware that I'm not perfect, I have my long list of flaws that I try to improve on, my longest standing one is that I prefer to use the floor near my work desk as an additional bookshelf or deskspace. My point being though, is that some people will get upset at you regardless of what happens, just because they like to pick fights. Females in particular prefer to cause drama instead of actually trying to resolve problems. If they do try to resolve problems though, it'll often be through subtle subterfuge, which will often not work, and then they'll rage and fight over the fact that they failed, and blame the failure on you.
    Males do have a habit to procrastinate or ignore things that aren't a serious problem that directly impedes their ability to function day to day.

    I think Waylander's efforts are in general a good step in the right direction, just don't drop them all together after D3's release. Do your best to make sure that it doesn't become an expectation that you do these things, or like UrDum says, things will backfire and nagging will commence. One way to avoid the expectation, and to keep a constant reminder that you're helping, and being nice, is to only 'help' and not 'do' things for her. When she's already in the middle of doing something, drop in and help her out, and make sure you toss in the phrase of, "Here, let me help you." Hopefully that'll keep the help from becoming an obligation, and also enables her to support your alone time.
    What are you willing to sacrifice?
  • #25
    i told mine i wanna stay home from work and play D3 on release. she respond "im going to tell your mom." i just laughed.
  • #26
    I'm actually prepping myself for a whole month of "making it up". My gf doesn't exactly hate video games, she's just didn't get that influence while she was growing up. Kind of an innocent when it comes to "worldly things" like video games, comics, etc... (THAT somehow keeps the attraction XD).

    Good thing I know how to cook...
  • #27
    Quote from carlwiliams
    ...everyone needs time to do their own thing. I don't get shitty at her for doing the laundry.....


    You, sir, deserves a medal :Thumbs Up:
  • #28
    My girlfriend enjoys watching me play games, as long as I'm still talking to her as well. And I let her rest on my chest while we play and discuss the game with her, makes her feel involved.
    She's pretty cool about everything really, she plays some browser/disney games but that's about it.
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