This debate/arguement started in the picture thread and I have lots to say about this issue. When it comes to attraction (hotness) both women and men are alike. Most of you will say right now, that is not true. Well it is very true. Physical Attraction (Seeing a hot man/women) is the same for both males and females. So lets see...
There is Physical Attraction and Mental attraction. The point i am trying to make is that many women sterotype guys saying that all we think about is how hot a girl is. Not all men think that way...maybe 99.97% think that but to be frank....women do the same. Women say that they are more into the personal information about a guy...that is what attracts them...well you can't really get to the personal information (aka Mental Attraction) without being drawn to them by they're physical attraction.
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Woman, "their database does not emcompass the dynamics of human male peer-bonding"
Edit- Thats from the terminator btw
Most people believe themselves to be unattractive compared to the next guy/girl, so maybe the reason why people complain about "beautiful stereotypes" is because they want to be seen for their personality and not their looks (which they are very self-conscious about)
Considering woman are more likely to be self conscious about their own appearance, it makes sense that its mostly woman who complain about men only caring about physical attractiveness and not personality.
Often the woman is "smoking hot" but for some strange reason she doesnt see herself that way :confused:
Another thing to add...men...the last thing they want is an annoying, jaw jabbering woman with them. That contridicts that men only think about "hotness".
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Supposedly, men actually are more visually stimulated than women are. But this doesn't mean that a physical attraction to a man can't be just as important for a woman. I would like to go into more detail about this, but I don't know how without talking about sex, pornography, and masturbation. And I'd rather not really go there.
I've a friend who's a psychology major and she talks to me about this stuff all the time. She's talked to me a lot about how they continue to map the human brain and do tests on males and females while exposing them to different content and seeing how their brain reacts.
In one test for instance, there is a region in the male's brain that is stimulated when watching pornography. And interestingly enough, this same region in the brain is stimulated in women when having an intellectual conversation with a male. But not the other way around.
In my entire life, I've only found 6 women attractive. Now, that's not to say I haven't met a lot of cute girls, but in order for a girl to be attractive to me, they have to have a lot more than that.
For instance, a physically attractive girl that thinks shes too good for everyone isn't my type and I wouldn't date a girl like that.
The girl I'm attracted to now isn't what most guys would consider insanely gorgeous but to me, there is no girl more attractive. While this girl is cute (amazingly cute if you ask me), thats not what attracts me to her. She's smart, shes into video games and comics, she has this dark side I can't really get enough of and she's all around just an awesome girl. But if all she had was her cuteness, she would just be another girl to me.
When I'm in a relationship, other girls don't exist to me in the way they do to single guys. I don't go to restaurants and check out other girls, I don't go to the mall to look at girls while I'm shopping with a girlfriend and I never ever consider cheating because when I'm in a relationship with someone, that person I'm with is the most beautiful person in the world and no one, no matter how hot they are can compare.
In my entire life, I've only found 6 women attractive. Now, that's not to say I haven't met a lot of cute girls, but in order for a girl to be attractive to me, they have to have a lot more than that.
For instance, a physically attractive girl that thinks shes too good for everyone isn't my type and I wouldn't date a girl like that.
The girl I'm attracted to now isn't what most guys would consider insanely gorgeous but to me, there is no girl more attractive. While this girl is cute (amazingly cute if you ask me), thats not what attracts me to her. She's smart, shes into video games and comics, she has this dark side I can't really get enough of and she's all around just an awesome girl. But if all she had was her cuteness, she would just be another girl to me.
When I'm in a relationship, other girls don't exist to me in the way they do to single guys. I don't go to restaurants and check out other girls, I don't go to the mall to look at girls while I'm shopping with a girlfriend and I never ever consider cheating because when I'm in a relationship with someone, that person I'm with is the most beautiful person in the world and no one, no matter how hot they are can compare.
That's just me though.
Might as well throw me in the same boat as you because that is exactly how I am. All my friends go and tell me to check out that chick and what not...no...I am not going to...I dont need to.
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I find I'm the same as Goodguy. Though some girls may be "hot", I find that if they're hot I can't seem to like them. They're hot, but not attractive.
Cute is a different matter though because, for me, it isn't just looks, but personality is included and influences how cute a girl is. It's more of an all around thing that attracts me.
And yea, when I'm in a relationship, that girl is the only one for me.
Yea, if that's unclear to you then that's okay because it's unclear to me too.
When you see two guys hanging out somewhere and you wanted to approach one of them...and one of them was alright looking and the other was hot...which one would you want to get to know?
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I think as you get older your perspective may change a little. I've been with the same girl for 7 years. I love her to death, I think she's a beautiful girl. She doesn't drink, she doesn't smoke, she's intellectual, she's passionate, and most of all, she understands me.
There's no doubt in my mind I don't find other girls insanely beautiful. I just don't lust after them. There are alot of temptations in this world. It just takes a real dignified human being to fight them off.
These are some of the phases I went through in my life. As a middle school I went for more of the underdog kinda girl. The one who was big into poetry, long walks on the beach. All that lame corny stuff. Then as a higherschool, I was more about the girl being beautiful. Beautiful smile, really innocent. Now sex appeal is REALLY important to me.
I think as you get older your perspective may change a little. I've been with the same girl for 7 years. I love her to death, I think she's a beautiful girl. She doesn't drink, she doesn't smoke, she's intellectual, she's passionate, and most of all, she understands me.
There's no doubt in my mind I don't find other girls insanely beautiful. I just don't lust after them. There are alot of temptations in this world. It just takes a real dignified human being to fight them off.
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so does this kinda cover that man are not women think of us? Women sterotyping men in that all we think about is how hot a girl is? or no?
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I read somewhere how guys think on average a sexual thought every 30 seconds (I think there was an age group). Girls in the same age group was actually close to that as well I think. Forget the exact statistics.
Put it in a perspective as, if you were approaching 2 women, one being ok looking and the other really hot...who would you initiate the conversation with?
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I can't remember exactly, it might have been infatuation.
Anyway, well I think the okay looking would be more approachable and since I'm shy towards people I don't know too well, then definately the okay looking one.
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so does this kinda cover that man are not women think of us? Women sterotyping men in that all we think about is how hot a girl is? or no?
I think both sexes are guilty of being shallow in some aspects. What I have found from personal experience though. Ugly chicks usually have horrible personalities. They spend all their life with low confidence, they come off whiny. They try to make up for their lack of social behavior by conceiting themselves in personal intelligence. I've always found them to be psychological unstable.
It all just balances out to me. We all end up with the right person in the end.
When I'm in a relationship, other girls don't exist to me in the way they do to single guys.
Well, it seems it is not true for Siaynoq and 99% of the rest of the population, whether male or female...
How can you even find a boyfriend if he stands next to you and looks at other hot girls or visits porn sites? That's, like, automatic incentive for cheating.
P.S.: usually if I say "men" I really mean "people" in general, except I don't view females as sexual targets...
I've never been physically attracted to a guy in my entire life. They all looked disgusting to me. Or obnoxious. Or too large/skinny... eh. And mentally... don't even get me started.
There is Physical Attraction and Mental attraction. The point i am trying to make is that many women sterotype guys saying that all we think about is how hot a girl is. Not all men think that way...maybe 99.97% think that but to be frank....women do the same. Women say that they are more into the personal information about a guy...that is what attracts them...well you can't really get to the personal information (aka Mental Attraction) without being drawn to them by they're physical attraction.
Edit- Thats from the terminator btw
Most people believe themselves to be unattractive compared to the next guy/girl, so maybe the reason why people complain about "beautiful stereotypes" is because they want to be seen for their personality and not their looks (which they are very self-conscious about)
Considering woman are more likely to be self conscious about their own appearance, it makes sense that its mostly woman who complain about men only caring about physical attractiveness and not personality.
Often the woman is "smoking hot" but for some strange reason she doesnt see herself that way :confused:
I've a friend who's a psychology major and she talks to me about this stuff all the time. She's talked to me a lot about how they continue to map the human brain and do tests on males and females while exposing them to different content and seeing how their brain reacts.
In one test for instance, there is a region in the male's brain that is stimulated when watching pornography. And interestingly enough, this same region in the brain is stimulated in women when having an intellectual conversation with a male. But not the other way around.
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That is very interesting Siaynoq.
For instance, a physically attractive girl that thinks shes too good for everyone isn't my type and I wouldn't date a girl like that.
The girl I'm attracted to now isn't what most guys would consider insanely gorgeous but to me, there is no girl more attractive. While this girl is cute (amazingly cute if you ask me), thats not what attracts me to her. She's smart, shes into video games and comics, she has this dark side I can't really get enough of and she's all around just an awesome girl. But if all she had was her cuteness, she would just be another girl to me.
When I'm in a relationship, other girls don't exist to me in the way they do to single guys. I don't go to restaurants and check out other girls, I don't go to the mall to look at girls while I'm shopping with a girlfriend and I never ever consider cheating because when I'm in a relationship with someone, that person I'm with is the most beautiful person in the world and no one, no matter how hot they are can compare.
That's just me though.
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Cute is a different matter though because, for me, it isn't just looks, but personality is included and influences how cute a girl is. It's more of an all around thing that attracts me.
And yea, when I'm in a relationship, that girl is the only one for me.
Yea, if that's unclear to you then that's okay because it's unclear to me too.
When you see two guys hanging out somewhere and you wanted to approach one of them...and one of them was alright looking and the other was hot...which one would you want to get to know?
There's no doubt in my mind I don't find other girls insanely beautiful. I just don't lust after them. There are alot of temptations in this world. It just takes a real dignified human being to fight them off.
These are some of the phases I went through in my life. As a middle school I went for more of the underdog kinda girl. The one who was big into poetry, long walks on the beach. All that lame corny stuff. Then as a higherschool, I was more about the girl being beautiful. Beautiful smile, really innocent. Now sex appeal is REALLY important to me.
so does this kinda cover that man are not women think of us? Women sterotyping men in that all we think about is how hot a girl is? or no?
Put it in a perspective as, if you were approaching 2 women, one being ok looking and the other really hot...who would you initiate the conversation with?
Anyway, well I think the okay looking would be more approachable and since I'm shy towards people I don't know too well, then definately the okay looking one.
I think both sexes are guilty of being shallow in some aspects. What I have found from personal experience though. Ugly chicks usually have horrible personalities. They spend all their life with low confidence, they come off whiny. They try to make up for their lack of social behavior by conceiting themselves in personal intelligence. I've always found them to be psychological unstable.
It all just balances out to me. We all end up with the right person in the end.
no, Mr.G said it was sex
How can you even find a boyfriend if he stands next to you and looks at other hot girls or visits porn sites? That's, like, automatic incentive for cheating.
P.S.: usually if I say "men" I really mean "people" in general, except I don't view females as sexual targets...
I've never been physically attracted to a guy in my entire life. They all looked disgusting to me. Or obnoxious. Or too large/skinny... eh. And mentally... don't even get me started.
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