It's said that Blizzard Entertainment is the enemy of all the girls: When they were in primary school, their boyfriends were busy playing StarCraft, when they were in junior middle school, their boyfriends were busy playing Warcraft III and Diablo II, when they were in high school, their boyfriend were busy playing World of Warcraft and DotA. Now they're in university, thinking they finally suffered it out. However, Diablo III has come...
Blame the player, not the game. I know MANY friends who play all of the games you mentioned (apart from Dota) and still manages to find time for his girl/family, but its all about your OWN self control ;/
I find that harping on my boyfriend for being a gamer is far less productive than jumping in and playing with him, but then I've always been a gamer. No reason to let something like VIDEO GAMES generate conflict in your relationship. If you are old enough to be in a relationship, you should be old enough to communicate, set some reasonable boundaries, and compromise.
TL;DR - don't be a bitch!
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"above all things, if kindness is your king, then Heaven will be yours before you meet your end" ♥ dmb
My teenage daughters are like me. They game instead of watching TV. The 18 year old rolled a barb on day 1, and the 15 year old rolled one of everything to experiment with. (No, they're not ugly, and no, you can't have pics or phone #s)
As far as gaming and my relationship? My wife is fine with gaming, as if I'm gaming, she knows right where I am if she needs my assistance. (or attention...believe me she knows how to get my attention, even after 20 years) She doesn't have to call the bar or figure out which friend I'm out with. I'm right there where she can see me, on my computer.
(Also, the fact that I *have* four kids, and I've been a gamer since before they were born, all the way back to text dungeon games and Harpoon (naval sim) means that I must have taken some time out of my gaming to take care of the situation in the picture, eh? )
I happen to be a girl who plays the game. Why does everyone assume females don't like awesome things like this? Also, it disgusts me when people seem to think the attention of a male is all women care about. I'd much rather have my games, haha.
I know a lot of us are girls, or know plenty of girls that play the game. It's pretty stereotypical to assume all girls are just sitting there getting mad at their boyfriend for not paying attention though. Sadly, this stereotype is accurate a lot of the time... statistically speaking less women are into computer games like this and some seem prone to get mad at their boyfriend because they don't fully understand it - I do see a lot of pictures of girlfriends breaking their boyfriend's gamedisk on facebook.
So even though it might not accurately represent your situation, trust me, although a bit over the top this article does apply to a lot of people out there.
I, however, would never get involved with someone who did not understand how important certain games are to me. I've been playing the game whenever I get the chance, put in about 90 hours so far, and she is fine with it. I got her a copy of the game but she can't run it very well and so she hasn't played much, sadly. But she would if she could. I do play regularly with several other female friends though. Pretty much all of my female friends are either interested in Diablo, or would be understanding of someone else's desire to play. then again, I met mot of these people at a game design school, haha.
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My typical train of thought: Everything -> Sex -> Diablo
Granted I've never been put in a position where I had to choose between a woman and gaming but...
I view women that have a problem with guys gaming as a control issue. All the healthy marriages I've ever seen (as in ones that actually last) each person has "their" time. For some women, it's mani/pedi time, or lunch with the girls or what have you. For guys, at least the guys I'm friends with, it's gaming.
Sure if you've got some important meeting you need to do as a family (eg. getting a new house, family member sick) then sure you need to go take care of it. If the woman just wants attention and gaming has attention for a while, and she throws a fit, well she's too much of a control freak. But then again, I'm single so take my opinion for what it's worth.
Granted I've never been put in a position where I had to choose between a woman and gaming but...
I view women that have a problem with guys gaming as a control issue. All the healthy marriages I've ever seen (as in ones that actually last) each person has "their" time. For some women, it's mani/pedi time, or lunch with the girls or what have you. For guys, at least the guys I'm friends with, it's gaming.
Sure if you've got some important meeting you need to do as a family (eg. getting a new house, family member sick) then sure you need to go take care of it. If the woman just wants attention and gaming has attention for a while, and she throws a fit, well she's too much of a control freak. But then again, I'm single so take my opinion for what it's worth.
That's mostly right, and usually it's not just gaming. It's usually pointed toward one of two things:
1) high-maintenance woman who needs attention all the time to keep her insecurities under control
2) guy who doesn't give her enough attention, even when he's not gaming
Those are the two extremes, but there's a lot of room in the middle there. My wife listened to the other wives talking about how their husbands were always in the bar or out playing golf, and decided that having me right there in the house was pretty handy.
Granted I've never been put in a position where I had to choose between a woman and gaming but...
I view women that have a problem with guys gaming as a control issue. All the healthy marriages I've ever seen (as in ones that actually last) each person has "their" time. For some women, it's mani/pedi time, or lunch with the girls or what have you. For guys, at least the guys I'm friends with, it's gaming.
Sure if you've got some important meeting you need to do as a family (eg. getting a new house, family member sick) then sure you need to go take care of it. If the woman just wants attention and gaming has attention for a while, and she throws a fit, well she's too much of a control freak. But then again, I'm single so take my opinion for what it's worth.
That's mostly right, and usually it's not just gaming. It's usually pointed toward one of two things:
1) high-maintenance woman who needs attention all the time to keep her insecurities under control
2) guy who doesn't give her enough attention, even when he's not gaming
Those are the two extremes, but there's a lot of room in the middle there. My wife listened to the other wives talking about how their husbands were always in the bar or out playing golf, and decided that having me right there in the house was pretty handy.
Ha nice! Put it this way, if you're killing demons, you're not out in some raunchy motel! You, sir, are a lucky man.
lol, also... I know a ton of girls who are enjoying playing D3 as well. Need more of them to join the gamer community, tbh.
We have to be selective, since a good chunk of the community has yet to reach a stage where shaving regularly is an imperative
I don't often make an issue of revealing my gender since it can garner unwelcome attention. Civil communities where you are treated with respect because you make constructive contributions (regardless of age/gender/orientation/whatever) don't usually care that I'm a woman anyway.
Of course, I'm also not a teenager, so I can interact without using my sex as an attention grabber.
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"above all things, if kindness is your king, then Heaven will be yours before you meet your end" ♥ dmb
If she doesn't respect you/your hobbies enough to just let you play without whining, just do her when she whines and go back to playing. Another satisfied customer.
Jokes aside, my wife usually complains about my game time, mainly because it is now interfering in our relationship, since I work all day and want to play for 2-3 hours when I get home. She has a fair point and I've been stressing the 'its a new game and i'm psyched' argument, with moderate success.
Logically, when faced with the possibility of unhappiness from my counterpart, I compromise. Easier said than done, but relationships are all about that. So, less playing time but more sexy time. Great success.
I always let other gamers think I am a guy. Otherwise, they either call me a liar, call me fat and ugly, or start being vulgar and hitting on me. I play well enough that people compliment and friend me based on that, not because I have boobies, ya know? Then I can secretly enjoy the fact that some guy just told me I was "an awesome beast, dude" without knowing his ass just got saved by a girl.
We have to be selective, since a good chunk of the community has yet to reach a stage where shaving regularly is an imperative
I don't often make an issue of revealing my gender since it can garner unwelcome attention. Civil communities where you are treated with respect because you make constructive contributions (regardless of age/gender/orientation/whatever) don't usually care that I'm a woman anyway.
Of course, I'm also not a teenager, so I can interact without using my sex as an attention grabber.
I can interact without using my sex as an attention grabber.
I'm a woman
also
shaving regularly
videogames were invented by nerds with huge ass beards.
We're 2 weeks into the launch of D3, and my wife has not crabbed at me yet! She hates gaming, so I've been pleasantly surprised. I absolutely dreaded she'd try and shut me down. I can't complain much though, she lets me golf when I want and smoke the finest cigars when I'm on the course!
Here's to the ladies who are gamers, and those who let their husbands/boyfriends get hooked on this game!
Blame the player, not the game. I know MANY friends who play all of the games you mentioned (apart from Dota) and still manages to find time for his girl/family, but its all about your OWN self control ;/
Edit: LOL @ rusted_plastic
Sexist women are sexist these days. Men are the only wrong ones apparently, regardless of what we do.
Lower your standards or get rich.
if you are rich you can have nearly any girl you want
TL;DR - don't be a bitch!
As far as gaming and my relationship? My wife is fine with gaming, as if I'm gaming, she knows right where I am if she needs my assistance. (or attention...believe me she knows how to get my attention, even after 20 years) She doesn't have to call the bar or figure out which friend I'm out with. I'm right there where she can see me, on my computer.
(Also, the fact that I *have* four kids, and I've been a gamer since before they were born, all the way back to text dungeon games and Harpoon (naval sim) means that I must have taken some time out of my gaming to take care of the situation in the picture, eh? )
So even though it might not accurately represent your situation, trust me, although a bit over the top this article does apply to a lot of people out there.
I, however, would never get involved with someone who did not understand how important certain games are to me. I've been playing the game whenever I get the chance, put in about 90 hours so far, and she is fine with it. I got her a copy of the game but she can't run it very well and so she hasn't played much, sadly. But she would if she could. I do play regularly with several other female friends though. Pretty much all of my female friends are either interested in Diablo, or would be understanding of someone else's desire to play. then again, I met mot of these people at a game design school, haha.
My typical train of thought: Everything -> Sex -> Diablo
I view women that have a problem with guys gaming as a control issue. All the healthy marriages I've ever seen (as in ones that actually last) each person has "their" time. For some women, it's mani/pedi time, or lunch with the girls or what have you. For guys, at least the guys I'm friends with, it's gaming.
Sure if you've got some important meeting you need to do as a family (eg. getting a new house, family member sick) then sure you need to go take care of it. If the woman just wants attention and gaming has attention for a while, and she throws a fit, well she's too much of a control freak. But then again, I'm single so take my opinion for what it's worth.
That's mostly right, and usually it's not just gaming. It's usually pointed toward one of two things:
1) high-maintenance woman who needs attention all the time to keep her insecurities under control
2) guy who doesn't give her enough attention, even when he's not gaming
Those are the two extremes, but there's a lot of room in the middle there. My wife listened to the other wives talking about how their husbands were always in the bar or out playing golf, and decided that having me right there in the house was pretty handy.
Ha nice! Put it this way, if you're killing demons, you're not out in some raunchy motel! You, sir, are a lucky man.
We have to be selective, since a good chunk of the community has yet to reach a stage where shaving regularly is an imperative
I don't often make an issue of revealing my gender since it can garner unwelcome attention. Civil communities where you are treated with respect because you make constructive contributions (regardless of age/gender/orientation/whatever) don't usually care that I'm a woman anyway.
Of course, I'm also not a teenager, so I can interact without using my sex as an attention grabber.
If she doesn't respect you/your hobbies enough to just let you play without whining, just do her when she whines and go back to playing. Another satisfied customer.
Jokes aside, my wife usually complains about my game time, mainly because it is now interfering in our relationship, since I work all day and want to play for 2-3 hours when I get home. She has a fair point and I've been stressing the 'its a new game and i'm psyched' argument, with moderate success.
Logically, when faced with the possibility of unhappiness from my counterpart, I compromise. Easier said than done, but relationships are all about that. So, less playing time but more sexy time. Great success.
Please excuse the Borat references.
also
videogames were invented by nerds with huge ass beards.
Here's to the ladies who are gamers, and those who let their husbands/boyfriends get hooked on this game!
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