I'll try to be as brief as possible, and I appreciate any respectful advice folks can offer, as I've been at wits end for a week or so now.
I started playing D3 as a barbarian, with what I considered a futile idea to be a "tank" in the best sense that D3 allows, duoing with a friend who played a Demon Hunter. The concept worked fine until about halfway through hell, at which point I started seeing that it might not be so effective.
Enter the brick wall that is inferno. I quickly realized that gear was the biggest blockade for Barbarians, and started doing everything I could to farm gear, to enable me to even come close to handling Act 1 Inferno. I farmed the heck out of Hell, and the Hell version of the "ponies", as well as some graciously donated gear from Act1 Inferno from various friends. I spent days researching builds, to see if I was making mistakes on a spec side of things - sorted out my spec, focusing on damage and not tanking (with appropriate gear for DPS), and tried again. Still getting my face smashed in Act 1 Inferno.
As of today, playing virtually non-stop since its release aside from WoW raid commitments, I've been working, and I still can't crack Act 1 Inferno. I can't get more gear without getting Act 2-4 gear (which I think is silly that you should need to over-gear a tier of content to beat it), I've tried every spec, I'm just flat out stuck.
At this point I'm out of ideas - I like my Barbarian, its what i want to play, so I'm not interested in leveling another character just to gimmick past Act 1, to gear the character i want to play. Finding someone to jump a group of friends to Act 4 to farm gear might be an option, though still feels equally as cheesy. So any ideas would be much appreciated.