I don't know if it's just spring time, but for the last few days I have been racking my brain, trying to come to a conclusion about this issue the seems to "plague" me, more often than not.
I always find myself avoiding the chance to have an adult relationship with these amazing girls that are younger than me. I am 22, going to be 23 this year and I know a girl that is 17, two that are 18, and one that is 19. All are single, amazingly gorgeous and have tried to get with me in the past (at which point I was 20 or so years old and they were all 16 ish, and I turned them all down)
I now find myself in the same situation where one of these girl's really wants to be with me again. I don't seem to get that many chances with the opposite sex. I can never hit the right buttons with girls my age and I just don't think I can wait for the girl to come along that is closer to my age. I am almost 23, she just turned 18 last weekend.
It really bothers me that age does not seem to matter when it comes to older people and relationships, I mean my dad is 50 and my step mom just turned 30, and no one seems to notice or care, but the North American society just lynches the younger crowd. I mean, if you are 23 your looking for college girls, not high school girls. :mad: It's not like I go looking for these younger girls, they always just have this way of being forced into my life... every damn time. I'm so sick of saying no, when I want to say yes, because of her age. I just want to wrap my brain around what is morally acceptable not only for me, but for parents, friends and family on both sides. I am starting to think if she is 18 and you are 25 or younger, it is OK! Advice?
This issue has been bothering me on and off for a few years now, but recently it is irritating the hell out of me!! I just wanted to see what this crowd had to say about the acceptable age differences of two people that want to have a relationship that involves sex.
I thank you all very much in advance for any advice, any of you may be willing to share.
I prefer older guys. Age discrepancy doesn't matter as long as the two of you can communicate and won't die too far in between.
I had 18 and 23. It was fine. Didn't feel weird in the slightest. 18 and 25 may be fine, depends on how mature the girl and you are. My parents married at 18 and 28. I see no problem.
Society? Tell it to go to hell. Society doesn't care about you. Stop caring about what it has to say. It's you and your girl. Everyone else can shut up, none of their biz.
Well, in my past experiences, I've almost always dated someone younger than me (I'm 27). I honestly wouldn't date anyone in highschool because I feel that there is a big step between highschool and college and then between college and the "real world". Even after you get into the real world, it can still be difficult to adapt. That is to say you might have a harder time connecting being at two different points in your lives.
I find that maturity doesn't have a whole lot to do with age. I feel that the same applies with relationships. Just because someone is mature doesn't mean they can be in a relationship, if that's what you're looking for? I mean on an emotional level they might not be ready. It's easy to get wrapped up in infatuation too and falling for someone that isn't compatible.
My advice, make sure you know the person real well before getting into anything serious. Try to spot any "red flags" before hand. Look at their family and parents and how they treat them, because that is usually a good sign of how they will treat you.
Anyways, good luck. And I remember catching a bunch of your friends in Canada; man they tasted good
I have always believed that if you are in the range of five or six year of her, it would be understandable. Of course, if you really want to puruse it, you may have to asskiss some parents.
Basically, this is what I was hoping to hear, and what I kind of knew all along. I don't know why, but somewhere along the line I got this silly notion that two people should be the same age to interlope.
I can just imagine having a little sister or daughter that just turned 18, and hearing that she is dating some 23 year old dude, and wanting to kill him. On the other hand, I'm also sure that if I met this guy, and he turned out to be a legit stand up guy, that I would probably have to grumble and accept it. I mean honestly though, when you think about it, it's only like 1800ish days age difference.
I think imma go for it! It only took a few helpful replies too! thanx!
So, just out of curiosity.... what would be the maximum age of someone YOU would accept dating your little sister, daughter or friend if she was 18 years old. 30? 50? I mean it has to stop being OK, and start becoming disturbing and unacceptable at some point right?
I know all kinds of things take place outside of North America that we are not accustomed to. (including old,old,old,old men marrying girls that are like 12) things like this may be common practice in some countries, but not in N.A.
So what do yall' think is the maximum age discrepency for North America, for two people that want to have sex with eachother?
There should be some kind of cap or limit though. I mean, there are plenty of people that probably feel 18 17 or 16 (or even younger :O) is OK for them at any age.
The current legalities for this are merely guidlines, and I think they stretch too far.
Wait so you wanna date a 16 year old? I highly disagree with that. At 16 you don't know who you love and who you don't, or what to expect out of a relationship. 16 year olds should be dating someone of a similar age and experience so they can learn from one another.
At 16 I couldn't even decide what I wanted for dinner.
There's a big difference as far as some ages (when talking about 5 or so year difference)
If you're 20, and she's 15, that's wrong.
If you're 21, and she's 16, that's wrong.
If you're 22, and she's 17, that's borderline.
If you're 23, and she's 18, that's okay.
I'd say 16 year olds shouldn't date anyone in the first place.
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I can just imagine having a little sister or daughter that just turned 18, and hearing that she is dating some 23 year old dude, and wanting to kill him.
I'd say an 18 year old teenager has a much higher probability of taking her virginity in a nasty way because he has no brains.
This assuming that the girl is more mature/smarter than the average 18-year old. If she is not at the 23 year old maturity level, she shouldn't be dating a 23 year old. E.g., it varies. Personally, again, if she can't date a 23 year old, she shouldn't be dating AT ALL. Dicks and assholes come at ANY AGE and if she cannot deal with that or recognize it, she should keep away from that stuff and read literature.
Stop thinking that age tells you something about the person. It doesn't. You need to look at each individual case and at each individual guy and also at your girl. She should be responsible for herself as well.
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what would be the maximum age of someone YOU would accept dating your little sister, daughter or friend if she was 18 years old.
Well, my parents are totally going off their age difference: ten years.
30 is OK for a friend not OK for a date, and I have a lot of 30+ friends, even had a 49-year old. But dating? Too many problems if one dies. (Yes, dying too fast is my #1 issue with this, believe it or not)
Sex? For first sex the girl needs to be at least 18 if you ask me and with a guy she can really, really, really trust and that means she knows him for a long while which means she'll be around 19-20. A lot of girls lose their virginity with a guy who doesn't even know how it happens and what it does to a girl (guys, read up on it, plz). >> I wouldn't want my little sister/daughter in that situation. Dating is one thing, sex is another.
its funny, my dad was 25 when he married my mum who was 16, I am 20 and married to a 30 ear old, and meet her when i wasw 17, I see nothing wrong with it we love eachother and have two beautiful girls together.
its funny, my dad was 25 when he married my mum who was 16, I am 20 and married to a 30 ear old, and meet her when i wasw 17, I see nothing wrong with it we love eachother and have two beautiful girls together.
Well, you ARE from Tennessee.
On a more serious note, I think age does have a lot to do with people, Equinox. Now, I think there are some exceptions to this rule, but usually most girls are prone to do stupid things for older men to please them. Especially older men.
I'll tell you one thing though, mainstreamly (if that's a word) older guys date younger girls most of the time because they think they'll get it easily. Now that's not all the time, but in most cases I've seen that's how it's been.
I hope I don't have a daughter though, so I won't have to deal with this. I'm a firm believer in the ol' double-standard.
If you use the mainstream for any serious judgment, you're classifying yourself as a conformist, sheep, part of cattle. Trust me, you don't want to be in that group for many reasons. I assume everyone on the forum is not in that group and I give them advice believing they're not part of that group.
If you want to know how sheep guys behave with sheep girls, don't ask advice on a forum. Check the statistics.
I am not a sheep and the people I meet are not sheep, either. They do not work by simple laws, unfortunately. If everything was so simple. I'm still virgin, mind you.
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I don't know if it's just spring time, but for the last few days I have been racking my brain, trying to come to a conclusion about this issue the seems to "plague" me, more often than not.
I always find myself avoiding the chance to have an adult relationship with these amazing girls that are younger than me. I am 22, going to be 23 this year and I know a girl that is 17, two that are 18, and one that is 19. All are single, amazingly gorgeous and have tried to get with me in the past (at which point I was 20 or so years old and they were all 16 ish, and I turned them all down)
I now find myself in the same situation where one of these girl's really wants to be with me again. I don't seem to get that many chances with the opposite sex. I can never hit the right buttons with girls my age and I just don't think I can wait for the girl to come along that is closer to my age. I am almost 23, she just turned 18 last weekend.
It really bothers me that age does not seem to matter when it comes to older people and relationships, I mean my dad is 50 and my step mom just turned 30, and no one seems to notice or care, but the North American society just lynches the younger crowd. I mean, if you are 23 your looking for college girls, not high school girls. :mad: It's not like I go looking for these younger girls, they always just have this way of being forced into my life... every damn time. I'm so sick of saying no, when I want to say yes, because of her age. I just want to wrap my brain around what is morally acceptable not only for me, but for parents, friends and family on both sides. I am starting to think if she is 18 and you are 25 or younger, it is OK! Advice?
This issue has been bothering me on and off for a few years now, but recently it is irritating the hell out of me!! I just wanted to see what this crowd had to say about the acceptable age differences of two people that want to have a relationship that involves sex.
I thank you all very much in advance for any advice, any of you may be willing to share.
I had 18 and 23. It was fine. Didn't feel weird in the slightest. 18 and 25 may be fine, depends on how mature the girl and you are. My parents married at 18 and 28. I see no problem.
Society? Tell it to go to hell. Society doesn't care about you. Stop caring about what it has to say. It's you and your girl. Everyone else can shut up, none of their biz.
I find that maturity doesn't have a whole lot to do with age. I feel that the same applies with relationships. Just because someone is mature doesn't mean they can be in a relationship, if that's what you're looking for? I mean on an emotional level they might not be ready. It's easy to get wrapped up in infatuation too and falling for someone that isn't compatible.
My advice, make sure you know the person real well before getting into anything serious. Try to spot any "red flags" before hand. Look at their family and parents and how they treat them, because that is usually a good sign of how they will treat you.
Anyways, good luck. And I remember catching a bunch of your friends in Canada; man they tasted good
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I can just imagine having a little sister or daughter that just turned 18, and hearing that she is dating some 23 year old dude, and wanting to kill him. On the other hand, I'm also sure that if I met this guy, and he turned out to be a legit stand up guy, that I would probably have to grumble and accept it. I mean honestly though, when you think about it, it's only like 1800ish days age difference.
I think imma go for it! It only took a few helpful replies too! thanx!
So, just out of curiosity.... what would be the maximum age of someone YOU would accept dating your little sister, daughter or friend if she was 18 years old. 30? 50? I mean it has to stop being OK, and start becoming disturbing and unacceptable at some point right?
I know all kinds of things take place outside of North America that we are not accustomed to. (including old,old,old,old men marrying girls that are like 12) things like this may be common practice in some countries, but not in N.A.
So what do yall' think is the maximum age discrepency for North America, for two people that want to have sex with eachother?
Do you really think a 18 year old is mature enough for a relationship? If so then go for it.
The current legalities for this are merely guidlines, and I think they stretch too far.
At 16 I couldn't even decide what I wanted for dinner.
If you're 20, and she's 15, that's wrong.
If you're 21, and she's 16, that's wrong.
If you're 22, and she's 17, that's borderline.
If you're 23, and she's 18, that's okay.
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This assuming that the girl is more mature/smarter than the average 18-year old. If she is not at the 23 year old maturity level, she shouldn't be dating a 23 year old. E.g., it varies. Personally, again, if she can't date a 23 year old, she shouldn't be dating AT ALL. Dicks and assholes come at ANY AGE and if she cannot deal with that or recognize it, she should keep away from that stuff and read literature.
Stop thinking that age tells you something about the person. It doesn't. You need to look at each individual case and at each individual guy and also at your girl. She should be responsible for herself as well.
Well, my parents are totally going off their age difference: ten years.
30 is OK for a friend not OK for a date, and I have a lot of 30+ friends, even had a 49-year old. But dating? Too many problems if one dies. (Yes, dying too fast is my #1 issue with this, believe it or not)
Sex? For first sex the girl needs to be at least 18 if you ask me and with a guy she can really, really, really trust and that means she knows him for a long while which means she'll be around 19-20. A lot of girls lose their virginity with a guy who doesn't even know how it happens and what it does to a girl (guys, read up on it, plz). >> I wouldn't want my little sister/daughter in that situation. Dating is one thing, sex is another.
The topic is legal marriage, not sex. No one was arguing that you can't rape anything that moves. But that's a gross statement in itself.
Well, you ARE from Tennessee.
On a more serious note, I think age does have a lot to do with people, Equinox. Now, I think there are some exceptions to this rule, but usually most girls are prone to do stupid things for older men to please them. Especially older men.
I'll tell you one thing though, mainstreamly (if that's a word) older guys date younger girls most of the time because they think they'll get it easily. Now that's not all the time, but in most cases I've seen that's how it's been.
I hope I don't have a daughter though, so I won't have to deal with this. I'm a firm believer in the ol' double-standard.
CyberPunk RP Nexus
If you want to know how sheep guys behave with sheep girls, don't ask advice on a forum. Check the statistics.
I am not a sheep and the people I meet are not sheep, either. They do not work by simple laws, unfortunately. If everything was so simple. I'm still virgin, mind you.