I know it's been said.. but if you give your girlfriend/wife time and don't just be a gamer during all of your free-time, it won't be much of an issue. Even though I game I still like to spend time with the person I'm dating at the time. Movies, dine out, beach, etc. I have dumped a few guys because once they found out I play video games that would be all they'd want to do.
For the OP, I agree with what someone else mentioned, go out on a date. Dinner+Movie or something nice you two like to do together. Remind her daily before May 15th how much you like / love her.
If I say the word Diablo anywhere near my girlfriend one more time, she will probably cut me ballz while I sleep for realz...
LMAO. My wife can get like that when I obsess over games, which I'm doing more as I get older. Playing less number of games, but more of singular games.
I've tried to talk about Diablo 3 as little as possible to avoid castration. She knows it comes out soon, but has no idea how obsessed I'll become over it, or even that I've taken time off work for it.... which will be met with rolling eyes and mockery.
I haven't requested any time off for the D3 release. I usually get off work early enough for it to not matter. But May 15th time will go so slow I bet since I'll be looking at my watch every 3 seconds.
Also take note on the flip side, from the significant other perspective: If they see you obsessing over something heavily, they may feel slightly neglected, even if you aren't neglecting them. No matter how secure you may feel about your own self worth, when the person you care about the most seems to suddenly shift lots of their focus over to something else entirely, you can feel challenged.
An important thing to do is to always remember to look at the argument from the other side and do your best to understand where the other person is coming from. That will enable the opportunity to come to a compromise of some sort that keeps everyone happy, and minimize hurt feelings.
So if your significant other is upset over the release of D3, spend the remaining two weeks before release with them. Remember not to spoil them too much though, or that'll just cause problems later down the road.
If your significant other has voiced serious concerns of feeling neglected because of the game, then do your best to avoid any D3 release marathons. Yes marathons can be fun, and we all want to see what happens after the stuff we saw in the beta/demo content as soon as we can, but it'll still be there later. You can play for a couple of hours on the first day, and go to bed, go about your regular routine the next day and continue playing the next afternoon/evening. The display of restraint will make the time you do have all the more enjoyable, and will be a gesture much appreciated by those who care for you. Relationships are always about sacrificing individual impulses for the better of the whole.
I've had my fair share of being with people who displayed little to no respect towards me, and would always refuse to compromise on any event. They're not healthy or fun to be around, and I don't let them back in anymore.
Important note: Don't try to rationalize past compromises to justify any kind of D3 marathon, that's just begging for trouble.
The only games my grilfriend plays are Bomberman and Bubble Bubble. Few years ago I tried to talk her into WoW. The only thing that interests her is /dance and /chicken. Even she showed high interest, I still failed. And I only got about 2 hour a week to play WoW. Barely enough to do any instance considering the time to get a PUG.
I really doubt that D3 has better chance than WoW. So the only thing I can do now is to persuade her to work harder, or visit her families more. Her mother is in 60s and live alone, and needs her company more than I do. XD
This, is exactly the reason why you marry a gamer yourself, these situations just don't arise lol. Playing co-op games with a gamer wife is like spending quality time to them. Night out at the movies, Dinner at a restaurant, Trying to survive Inferno together, all the same when you have a gamer wife.
EXACTLY!
I will go to Walmart and get 2 copies @ midnight. Come home and install them, create the account for her and have it all ready to go when she wakes up in the morning to give a quick spin before she is off to work. Me, I have taken the day off so I can play an all day session.
When she gets home from work, I can give her the details of what I did and how it is going so maybe it will help her. We are both playing barbs on the first run through so we will have our main avatar that we solo with, and another alt for when we play as a team. I can get to the game room right after dinner, she has to wait until the kitchen is cleaned up. :-) But when we are together, we will be kicking azz and taking names as a team.
I remember 30 years ago, I told her I have hobbies, you need to get some. She has taken most of the hobbies I do and loves them. So if you are going to have a significant other, tell them to have a hobby in life as you will. If you are lucky, they will like the ones you do and you also might get 30+ years out of the relationship.
Hell, we will be so tired and exhausted from clearing dungeons, we might miss sex the first week of Diablo III's release!
'Quality time' is the key word here for most women. (from the '5 Love Languages' book). When your gaming, it takes away from their quality time with you. So get a laptop that can run D3, game on the go in the living room, bathroom, etc. while she watches her shows, (American Idol/Dance with Stars, The Bachelor). Or game when everyone goes to bed. But either way you have make schedule time for both.
Don't you Men realize that the battle between good and evil will fall on us come the ides of May?!? Have you forgotten what our purpose as Men in life is? All that is good in this world depends on us Men to unite as one and slay the minion that is Diablo. I can't do it alone. I need my fellow Man to lead with me!! So rise up my brothers and set forth with me for adventure but most importantly ... for HONOR and GLORY. Your time is now ... this is what legends are made of.
Tell your women to ... get you some beer and a sandwich on the 15th.
For the OP, I agree with what someone else mentioned, go out on a date. Dinner+Movie or something nice you two like to do together. Remind her daily before May 15th how much you like / love her.
LMAO. My wife can get like that when I obsess over games, which I'm doing more as I get older. Playing less number of games, but more of singular games.
I've tried to talk about Diablo 3 as little as possible to avoid castration. She knows it comes out soon, but has no idea how obsessed I'll become over it, or even that I've taken time off work for it.... which will be met with rolling eyes and mockery.
I haven't requested any time off for the D3 release. I usually get off work early enough for it to not matter. But May 15th time will go so slow I bet since I'll be looking at my watch every 3 seconds.
An important thing to do is to always remember to look at the argument from the other side and do your best to understand where the other person is coming from. That will enable the opportunity to come to a compromise of some sort that keeps everyone happy, and minimize hurt feelings.
So if your significant other is upset over the release of D3, spend the remaining two weeks before release with them. Remember not to spoil them too much though, or that'll just cause problems later down the road.
If your significant other has voiced serious concerns of feeling neglected because of the game, then do your best to avoid any D3 release marathons. Yes marathons can be fun, and we all want to see what happens after the stuff we saw in the beta/demo content as soon as we can, but it'll still be there later. You can play for a couple of hours on the first day, and go to bed, go about your regular routine the next day and continue playing the next afternoon/evening. The display of restraint will make the time you do have all the more enjoyable, and will be a gesture much appreciated by those who care for you. Relationships are always about sacrificing individual impulses for the better of the whole.
I've had my fair share of being with people who displayed little to no respect towards me, and would always refuse to compromise on any event. They're not healthy or fun to be around, and I don't let them back in anymore.
Important note: Don't try to rationalize past compromises to justify any kind of D3 marathon, that's just begging for trouble.
I really doubt that D3 has better chance than WoW. So the only thing I can do now is to persuade her to work harder, or visit her families more. Her mother is in 60s and live alone, and needs her company more than I do. XD
EXACTLY!
I will go to Walmart and get 2 copies @ midnight. Come home and install them, create the account for her and have it all ready to go when she wakes up in the morning to give a quick spin before she is off to work. Me, I have taken the day off so I can play an all day session.
When she gets home from work, I can give her the details of what I did and how it is going so maybe it will help her. We are both playing barbs on the first run through so we will have our main avatar that we solo with, and another alt for when we play as a team. I can get to the game room right after dinner, she has to wait until the kitchen is cleaned up. :-) But when we are together, we will be kicking azz and taking names as a team.
I remember 30 years ago, I told her I have hobbies, you need to get some. She has taken most of the hobbies I do and loves them. So if you are going to have a significant other, tell them to have a hobby in life as you will. If you are lucky, they will like the ones you do and you also might get 30+ years out of the relationship.
Hell, we will be so tired and exhausted from clearing dungeons, we might miss sex the first week of Diablo III's release!
HAHAHA!
o wait...youre being serious...
Tell your women to ... get you some beer and a sandwich on the 15th.