I don't know any solution to handle marriage and play D3 together... so I'm not getting married until I'm over D3 (at least a year) lolol... but on that note Congratulations on your Marriage
Been together for 7 years, married for one. She knows I play my games, and always finds something to do sitting behind me in our office/living room. I had to get ready for a wedding, so I had her play the beta with a friend of mine.
She was playing the monk and got to Leoric. I was yelling heal! Drink! Heal! Drink! every other second. She's so noobish right now, I dunno. D3 just might be the thing that breaks us up.
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I've been gaming since 1992'ish, since I got my first computer (this is not including nintendo), I met my wife 6 years ago...she knew I was a gamer and she still went out with me, now we argue alot because she is constantly trying to change me or make me hold my daughter, and I'm like "can't you see I'm busy?" and she is all like "She is your daughter, whats more important the game or her" and I'm all like "Does the game cry?, Does the game constantly yell out I want mommy? no, NO IT DOESN'T" and next thing I know my daughter is hitting my keyboard because she is alread in my lap and my wife isn't there anymore.
That's just plain bad, on your part. Both you and your wife should be making efforts on how to manage time and that the both of you spend time with your daughter. I'm the eldest child of five, and the two youngest came into existence in my last years of High School. I remember both of them getting dumped on me to watch constantly because my step mom only wanted children because of the attention she'd indirectly get by having kids, she had and still has zero interest on actually caring or raising children. Despite the fact that between working in the afternoons and still having plenty of homework and schoolwork to take care of, I was more than capable of finding time to game as well as still watch my two youngest infant sisters so that they didn't die from starvation.
If you aren't willing to put family first over your hobby, then you have no reason to reproduce or care for children.
edit: Back to the thread's topic, a married man will find the time to game the same way he should have been doing it when he was dating. There is a set time that you do it, and you make sure that the time you're going to do it is free, that no activities or events were planned for that set time. You can then are in the right to safely play within a set amount of time. Doing anything otherwise you should always be ready to drop the game at a pin drop to take care of whatever. When I used to raid hardcore in MMO's when I started college I would always use off nights for dates and what not. I always made my raid schedule clear, and I'm gifted enough in multitasking that I am capable of carrying out fairly involved conversations while gaming. My critical thinking can't be applied to in full for the conversation, since part of it is being applied to the game, but a portion of it is often more than enough to satisfy the needs for most conversations.
At the end of the day, it really comes down to if you like or do you love your wife. If you like her, then things are going to go poorly for both of you, as you're going to make the wrong decisions for a marriage, the biggest one being that you said, "I do". If you love your wife, then you're going to find a way to make things work for the both of you. You're most likely not going to be able to have insane gaming marathons, or be able to wake up, play all day and then go to bed (and maybe even go to bed expecting sex). Those are things you lost when you got married, I shouldn't say lost, but more of traded. You traded the solitude that enabled impromptu gaming marathons for the companionship that disables you from always getting what you want. You traded the thought that you may die alone for the reassurance that someone saying that they love you, and they want to grow old with you.
As to what the OP suggested, trying to get your wife engaged into your hobby is a great thing to try. Do remember to be patient and helpful though. She may slow you down, but think of the significance of what's happening. You are playing a game with your best friend and if the two of you find some way for you to enjoy that time together while playing D3 then your relationship is going to be much better because of it.
I'm going to assume you missed the part about her not even being there when I was arguing with her.
I've been gaming since 1992'ish, since I got my first computer (this is not including nintendo), I met my wife 6 years ago...she knew I was a gamer and she still went out with me, now we argue alot because she is constantly trying to change me or make me hold my daughter, and I'm like "can't you see I'm busy?" and she is all like "She is your daughter, whats more important the game or her" and I'm all like "Does the game cry?, Does the game constantly yell out I want mommy? no, NO IT DOESN'T" and next thing I know my daughter is hitting my keyboard because she is alread in my lap and my wife isn't there anymore.
That's just plain bad, on your part. Both you and your wife should be making efforts on how to manage time and that the both of you spend time with your daughter. I'm the eldest child of five, and the two youngest came into existence in my last years of High School. I remember both of them getting dumped on me to watch constantly because my step mom only wanted children because of the attention she'd indirectly get by having kids, she had and still has zero interest on actually caring or raising children. Despite the fact that between working in the afternoons and still having plenty of homework and schoolwork to take care of, I was more than capable of finding time to game as well as still watch my two youngest infant sisters so that they didn't die from starvation.
If you aren't willing to put family first over your hobby, then you have no reason to reproduce or care for children.
edit: Back to the thread's topic, a married man will find the time to game the same way he should have been doing it when he was dating. There is a set time that you do it, and you make sure that the time you're going to do it is free, that no activities or events were planned for that set time. You can then are in the right to safely play within a set amount of time. Doing anything otherwise you should always be ready to drop the game at a pin drop to take care of whatever. When I used to raid hardcore in MMO's when I started college I would always use off nights for dates and what not. I always made my raid schedule clear, and I'm gifted enough in multitasking that I am capable of carrying out fairly involved conversations while gaming. My critical thinking can't be applied to in full for the conversation, since part of it is being applied to the game, but a portion of it is often more than enough to satisfy the needs for most conversations.
At the end of the day, it really comes down to if you like or do you love your wife. If you like her, then things are going to go poorly for both of you, as you're going to make the wrong decisions for a marriage, the biggest one being that you said, "I do". If you love your wife, then you're going to find a way to make things work for the both of you. You're most likely not going to be able to have insane gaming marathons, or be able to wake up, play all day and then go to bed (and maybe even go to bed expecting sex). Those are things you lost when you got married, I shouldn't say lost, but more of traded. You traded the solitude that enabled impromptu gaming marathons for the companionship that disables you from always getting what you want. You traded the thought that you may die alone for the reassurance that someone saying that they love you, and they want to grow old with you.
As to what the OP suggested, trying to get your wife engaged into your hobby is a great thing to try. Do remember to be patient and helpful though. She may slow you down, but think of the significance of what's happening. You are playing a game with your best friend and if the two of you find some way for you to enjoy that time together while playing D3 then your relationship is going to be much better because of it.
I'm going to assume you missed the part about her not even being there when I was arguing with her.
I didn't even read any of this. But, I think someone is being way too serious.
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Forgot to mention... for most females (not all, but I'm talking most so don't give me hate for saying "My GF loves games etc.... or... I'm a female and have played games for blahblahblah etc..) they can't stand computer games.
Trying to get them into it when they clearly are not is a lost cause and usually doesn't end well.
For my wife, it would be like her trying to get me into shopping and make up. Its just not going to happen. Just leave it out, its a guy thing... (mostly )
Forgot to mention... for most females (not all, but I'm talking most so don't give me hate for saying "My GF loves games etc.... or... I'm a female and have played games for blahblahblah etc..) they can't stand computer games.
Trying to get them into it when they clearly are not is a lost cause and usually doesn't end well.
For my wife, it would be like her trying to get me into shopping and make up. Its just not going to happen. Just leave it out, its a guy thing... (mostly )
I disagree.
Of course you shouldn't force it though.
But really as time goes by more and more girls have played video games in their life, they are sure very casual about it but my feeling is its becoming less and less alien to them.
Not married, but been with the same gal for 7 years now, lived together 5. She doesn't play games outside of Wii sports at Xmas, but I was a WoW raider when we were dating so she understands. She's got hobbies, as long as I don't procrastinate from real life duties she tolerates my hobby/addiction.
Just be realistic, playing a game more than 2 hours a day is a privilege, not a right when you're married
How are you guys going to play D3 and still maintain good relationship with your wife? I just got married, and was thinking of buying another comp so as to let my wife join in *fingers crossed*
Any other suggestions?
Ha, to just be married again, and not a father with two young kids. I get 2-2.5 hours per day free time, period, after the kids have gone to bed and we've returned the house to some semblance of order. And that 2.5 hours includes any time I plan on spending with the wife!
Luckily she knows I've been waiting for D3 for a long time. I'll get a couple weeks where I can use all my spare time to play, then gradually get back into our current routine of basically alternating nights - one night doing something together, one night doing our own thing.
How are you guys going to play D3 and still maintain good relationship with your wife? I just got married, and was thinking of buying another comp so as to let my wife join in *fingers crossed*
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She was playing the monk and got to Leoric. I was yelling heal! Drink! Heal! Drink! every other second. She's so noobish right now, I dunno. D3 just might be the thing that breaks us up.
http://i.imgur.com/O7Oeo.png
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What? Play less so you can probe her shit locker with your hot beef injection? Hardly worth it, pal.
I'm one of the many (few?) who don't even get into that.
http://i.imgur.com/O7Oeo.png
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Ha. Bagstone.
But fair enough, replace anal with anything else you'd like your wife to do and compromise over that.
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Then, I agree.
http://i.imgur.com/O7Oeo.png
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I'm going to assume you missed the part about her not even being there when I was arguing with her.
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I didn't even read any of this. But, I think someone is being way too serious.
http://i.imgur.com/O7Oeo.png
I received TWO beta keys. Eat it and like it.
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Trying to get them into it when they clearly are not is a lost cause and usually doesn't end well.
For my wife, it would be like her trying to get me into shopping and make up. Its just not going to happen. Just leave it out, its a guy thing... (mostly )
I disagree.
Of course you shouldn't force it though.
But really as time goes by more and more girls have played video games in their life, they are sure very casual about it but my feeling is its becoming less and less alien to them.
Just be realistic, playing a game more than 2 hours a day is a privilege, not a right when you're married
Ha, to just be married again, and not a father with two young kids. I get 2-2.5 hours per day free time, period, after the kids have gone to bed and we've returned the house to some semblance of order. And that 2.5 hours includes any time I plan on spending with the wife!
Luckily she knows I've been waiting for D3 for a long time. I'll get a couple weeks where I can use all my spare time to play, then gradually get back into our current routine of basically alternating nights - one night doing something together, one night doing our own thing.
Nope.
http://i.imgur.com/O7Oeo.png
I received TWO beta keys. Eat it and like it.
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With my wife, as often as I want.
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