A predicament

[Carloseus]

ok here goes. there is this girl i liked from where i worked. shes 16 and im 16. school started so she quit work for volleyball, at school. i see her every day and want to ask her out. im summoning all the courage i have to do it. my concern is in the possible date. if she says yes what do i do?? i want to ask her out to the movies so there is an activity. what can i do to get her to like me and provide a possible second date??

damn this is embarrassing. especially because all my other freinds are being dicks and telling me to "geterdone". point is that i dont like the whole idea of casual sex. im conservative and believe in abstinence. she's mormon and has a conservative father. since i cant count on my freinds to give me heart to heart advice i guess i would try here since you guys are many and i can take or leave advice as i think is wise.

thank you for your time and please dont just leave stupid stuff on. most of you do have honest advice and are good people so i do trust you guys to be more mature about this.

[darkjay]

take her to the movies and maby to a nice place to eat... not mc donalds... if she says no... well then ur SoL

[DX rulez]

yes... the movie is okay, eat in a nice place too, mmm... maybe you should buy her a little present or a rose, that should be cute i think so... if she says no well... be strong...

[darkjay]

do not fear rejectment... that wont happen be possative, if she does happen to say no, try her friends lol

[Carloseus]

i think the rose is a bit overkill dont you think??
maybe i can express my feelings to her???

[DX rulez]

mmm... just follow your heart man... do what you have to do!

[Carloseus]

nervous. i screw everything up. hopefully everything goes well. i have till wednesday to ask her and if she says yes i have till saturday evening to think up what ill tell her.

relationships leave you so vulnerable!!! it sucks to open up to someone not knowing whether they like you or not. love sucks.....

[darkjay]

hmm what does she like??? ask her

[Obieperson]

Okay well expressing your feelings to her before you ask her out, or at the begining of the date might make things a little awkward after that point. On Tuesday night try not to think of asking her out to much so that you can get a good nights sleep. When going to ask her, don't seem too giddy or desperate, just ask yourself (and not all "Dude I own I'm so arrogant" either). If she says no then keep your chin up, it happens. If she says yes, then take her out somewhere respective to eat, no fast food, a sit down place. Try not to get to fancy or anything, it'll be weird since she won't be expecting it and your going to a movie. Roses might be a little much for a first date. At dinner don't act like a slobe or just sit and eat and not say anything. Make small talk, get to know her, ask her about herself. Pay for her dinner and movie, that would be better than roses. Then you know nice movie not...(hmm what's out...) I don't remember...lol not Snakes on a Plane though. Geeshus this is a long post. I am pretty sure you can take it from there. Good luck!







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[Carloseus]

this is what i was talking about. i am truly thankful for the wealth of advice you guys have given me. i just woke up and feel i can conquer anything. obieperson thanks for the tips they make sense. lets just see how it goes wednesday. i kinda feel that she'll say yes, its just that i dont know how to handle awkward situations. thanks guys i appreciate the help an d i guess keep it coming since there are surely others in a similar situation.

[katael]

good luck man...cant give you any advice though, im a total noob (no expirience at all infact) at those issues...

[Jaco Wolf]

Hope for the best but all you can do is ask her I am married so trust me I know lots about this shes in control take care

[horus_666god]

how about this go to her ask her out act naturally and maybe thell be a second date it all depends on u if u act like a gentleman she will like it and she will go out with u again

[Encryption]

yeah man just be casual but gentlemanly if thats a word well anway just treat her nice and all that and you'll probably go far (not in a sexual way though not til after marriage anyway^^)

[katael]

i also have a question about the same topic then...how can you tell if someone likes you, and should you wait for them to approach you, or should you just try?

[Encryption]

it depends most of the time i think people should just go for it and at other times i stay study the person to find out exactly what they like and then be that thing then ask them out or whatever

[katael]

im always scared of reading people wrong though...i had this one girl in my class once and i thought she kept on smiling at me, untill i remembered how hot she was and that she must be smiling at someone else...

[Encryption]

yeah well that can happen sometimes but in those cases you should just grit your teeth and askthem out

[katael]

but if i would have been turned down then...that would have lasted a lifetime...

[Encryption]

yeah i guess is true that always sucks when that happens at least for me cause im usually the guy who gave the advice to do it and then my friends all get mad at me

[katael]

have you been turned down before?

[Encryption]

plenty of times but my girlfriend died in a car accident a while back so im stayin out of the game for a while now

[katael]

damn....sorry...i woulnt handle that...i really wouldnt

[katael]

the more i think about that the more i think of rather just staying on my own...

[Encryption]

yeah well if you dont move on you're gonna be lost forever that's what someone told me anyway i thought it was really wise so i decided to follow it and its really helped me a lot. by keeping busy and that kind of thing i can stop dwelling on the bad things and remember the good things

[Obsolete_hi]

I don't like taking girls to the movies unless I am dating them because you just kind sit there and really don't get to talk or joke around. If you really want to get to know her, go bowling if you like it, or just find a nice place to take a walk with her and do that. Dinner is always good, because you can talk face to face and get to know each other better. A samll gift like a teddy bear will be awesome. I gave my girl friend one on our first date(before we were together) and I sprayed it with my cologne. She told me she smelled it like every night while she was going to bed and she still has it to this day. Also writing a nice letter, not to cheesy, will always help if you can't explain how you feel face to face. And if she does say no, just accept it and still be her friend, because she could change her mind :P

[Obsolete_hi]

It's kinda easy telling if a girl likes you..She will say more stuff to you then needs to be said. Example. If your going out to get ice cream and the girl/guy at the counter looks at you and is kinda stalling you from making your order :P... and if you "think" a girl likes you, just ask her to hang out. Like say, "Hey a couple of friends are going somewhere, and I was wondering if you want to come." If they say yes then most of the time, they have something for you.

[Carloseus]

well my strategy might change a bit. i was on my way from work and some dumbass went as i had right of way expecting that i would yeild. to my surprise my brakes were disabled (speculation after it i observed that fixing my tires i must have messed around with them) and ran into his small trailer. thankfully nothing broke but i did get very nasty scrapes on my ankle and its the size of a football after 12 hours. im not at school right now. i am at home because walking hurts enough without worrying about others stepping on me.

so what i might do is go to school tommorrow and tell her straight up that i would like her to go to the movies with me but if she cant or doesnt want to i would understand. i dont know. its a confident but yet not too confident approach to it.

[Obsolete_hi]

If it is confidence you need just get a friend with his date to go with you guys...Group dating is always fun and makes this a bit less stressful.

[Morfias]

Girls like confidence trust me. You can't be a quivering mess (while some girls find it cute) other girls get nervous and panic. My girlfriend that i have right now we just spent a lot of time with eachother and one thing turned to the next and now we've been going out for a year. If you bring her to a movie i'd suggest a romantic comedy because than you can both laugh and joke around instead going to a horror movie or something. And if she rejects you, yea it will hurt a bit, but there will be plenty more opportunities.

[brute]

snakes on a planes=greatest movie choice for any occasion.

[Obieperson]

Oh my God I hope you are kidding. What girl that you just asked out would want to go see Snakes on a Plane? Lol, but Samuel L. Jackson does own.

[katael]

havent seen that movie yet...is it any good?

[Encryption]

yeah man i wanna know too i was hoping to see it but i wanted someone's opinions first

[Obieperson]

My friend saw it, and he said is was bad, the only good part was Samuel L. Jackson lol.

[Encryption]

lol ok thx man for the info

[brute]

i thought it was the most fun ive ever had at a movie.

[Encryption]

ok i guess i'll listen to a few more people before i make a final dicision

[Obsolete_hi]

Honestly though...Snake on a plane.....Who in the world came up with that idea..!

[Obieperson]

Same guy who came up with "My Career in the Shitter"

[Obsolete_hi]

I think open water was a better movie :P

[katael]

havent seen that either...

[Obsolete_hi]

You don't want to. It is about people floating around in the water..THE WHOLE MOVIE! At the end you don't even see the shark eat them..

[katael]

yeah i hate those movies...

[AcidReign]

They need to make a Predator 3....

[Obsolete_hi]

Yea Alien Vs Pred was so good, Ive watched it like 4 times so far.

[Obsolete_hi]

I love the idea of other races far superior then ours coming to earth and using us as their prey :P

[katael]

i watched it once...also not quite my kind of movie...wasnt that bad though

[Encryption]

yeah it was alright but i like scarier things though^^ i love horror REAL HORROR movies

[Obsolete_hi]

Night of the living dead good classic horror movie.

[Encryption]

yeah it was pretty good for the classics i like the classics too they're pretty good for bases to build off of in other films and stuff

[Carloseus]

ok i did it. i waited till after class and cought her in the halls. she greeted me nicely and i hesitated a tiny bit. i then asked her if she wanted to go to the movies on saturday. she looked like she was disappointed a bit and told me that she had plans on saturday with volleyball. two long seconds went by while i tried to think of something else to say. finally i said that whenever she wasnt busy if she wanted to do something. she said she would think about it and that she would like that.

the bell rang and we said see you later. then i felt really relieved that i finally did it. as i got to class someone crashed into me and i felt like someone had thrown boiling oil at my very much hurt ankle. =(

[katael]

i hope you clobbered him... give him a very much hurt ankle of his own...congrats though^^

[Encryption]

well hey man thats cool that you asked her out good job and i hope toyr ankle feels better soon^^

[Carloseus]

thanks guys i appreciate the support.

[Encryption]

yeah man no problem its always good to help a fellow diablo fan^^

[Obsolete_hi]

The good part about that is that she said she would "like that". Maybe start talking to her over the phone? This is a great why to get to know her. Don't just drop it and wait for her to make the next move. Ask if you could talk with her over the internet or phone.

[Carloseus]

o i know that i have to be proactive from here on. i feel weird doing it but i bet she feels even wierder. ill ask her phone tommorrow since i wont see her again today.

[Carloseus]

wait...... yea ill ask her for her number and ask her when she's not busy so i can call her. that way she knows i wont try to call her while she's busy or when her parents dont want me to. if they have rules about it.

[Ferret]

yeah, make a good impression on the parents, thats a must. good job on asking her though, i pretty much have the same problem unless im drinking:) .

[Carloseus]

lol i drink every now and again. its called liquid courage but i wanted to do it on my own. plus if i would have used it she would have said no and i get kicked out of school.

i dont want to be like that guy that is desperate to please but dont want to appear as an asswhole. maybe if i do a little of the first and none of the second........

[Ferret]

lol, yeah sry, i wasnt telling you to drink, its just thats one of the ways im not as tense around girls:D . to drink in school, w8 til the last couple of weeks. me and my friends always brought at least one keg of beer with us, it was a blast. i should go see someone about my drinking habits :/ :D

[Carloseus]

ill drink when i want to!!!!! wheres my cake?? I WANT MY CKAE!! YOU SHILLY SIT!! I...... I..... (snores)

[Corn Flakes]

MarijuanA .

[Carloseus]

ok ive been taking hints and i asked her if she really wanted to go out with me or if she was just being nice. she said being nice. this sucks but i kinda grew from it. i guess i wanted it too much. idk.

[Morfias]

Hmm well don't give up right away because there could still be a chance just wait a while for you guys to become better friends and there will most likely be more chances along the way.

[Encryption]

oh well nothing ventured nothing gained

[Morfias]

Exactly and at least you won't regret it later on instead of if you didn't it would probably bug you for a while.

[Carloseus]

well, i was kinda hopeful. i only see her in class (weight training) and i initial any conversation. i dont think i can become better friends with her if she doesnt really want to you know??

[Carloseus]

anyways im over it, i was over it like five minutes after she told me. i guess it might not have been to be.

[Morfias]

Haha well at least your fine. There's plenty of other fish in the sea so there will be plenty more opputunities to try your luck.

[Carloseus]

i hope so. right now for some reason it feels that the only ones who arent crazy dont really want me. or maybe i am still feeling the sting. in other news i might be able to summon up the courage to ask more girls out. other ones with potential. i have no idea. im still at school. i feel different. i feel powerful yet weak. i am so confused yet whats new??

[darkjay]

get ur fishing poll ur bait and line and go fishing...

[Carloseus]

good idea. ill have to go to alaska cuz im in arizona. while im at it i can also take on a couple bears to exercise myself. rest and exercise are a good combo to release your mind of your troubles

[Kewterz]

ya meditaition works wonders as well, if you are into martial arts that is a very good way to relax as well

[Carloseus]

martial arts comes with my warrior instincts. quick yet gracefull powerfull movements combined with technique strategy and brute strength is what makes me what i am, a slaughter house on legs.

however this whole dating issue leaves me emotionally exposed. physically its easy to defend yourself but emotionally its harder. i think i might take advantage of this sense of openness and ask someone else out. or maybe i can wait and indulge myself in diablo2 and guild wars.